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5 Steps to Turn Worry Around

Worrying about money has been so ingrained in our culture today that it has literally become an epidemic. We are not only worrying over money, we talk about it with our friends. We toss and turn all night thinking about it. We spend our energy thinking about the worst case scenario and all possible negative outcomes of the situation. It’s top of mind. All this worrying has gotten you nowhere, but you can turn this all around by changing the way you think and change what you are doing.

Here are some steps to help you.  

  1. Change Your Focus

When I am super stressed and worrying about my finances I ask myself, “What am I focused on?” Usually I notice I’m really in a negative state of mind, so I ask myself, “Do I want more of this?” Usually the answer is no. See when you are focused on a negative emotion such as worry, you are creating more of what you don’t want into your life.  The key is to notice it and turn it around.

  1. Get a Mantra or Song

The reason you want a mantra or song is to help shift the energy. When you say your mantra or sing your song your energy shift and raises to a higher level. The more positive energy you tell yourself, the more you will believe and embody it. One way to do this is with a mantra, which is a positive sentence you repeat to yourself every time you begin to worry. Mine is “God is my source.” This reminds me that when I align to the energy of abundance it comes to me from many different streams of income. That I’m in control of my life and I’m choosing the experience I’m having in this moment. Do I want the experience to be pleasant full of trust and faith or stress and worry? To remind myself to say my mantra I painted a small palm tree on a sandy beach on a 3 x5 card and post it in my kitchen window.  You could write yours on a 3×5 card with color markers and put it somewhere you’ll see it often, such as your bathroom mirror, in your car or on your computer monitor.

Create a fun song to sing. When I drive I sing my song. You can make something up on the fly or think about your song and write it down so that you remember it. My song goes like this…Thank you for this day Spirit. Thank you for this day. This wonderful day, this wonderful day. Thank you for my clients Spirit. Thank you for my clients. My wonderful clients, my wonderful clients. Thank you Spirit for the opportunities to make money today.  The wonderful opportunities, the wonderful opportunities. Thank you for this day Spirit. Thank you for this day. This wonderful day, this wonderful day.

The key here is to feel good when you sing your song. You could sing it in the shower, in the car or at night when you’re getting ready for bed.  

  1. Go into Gratitude

Gratitude is a higher vibration and it’s harder to focus on the negatives in life, when one is being grateful. One way to do this is to write down five positive things that happened during your day. You’ll want to do this every evening before bed for at least two weeks. In the morning when you wake up write five things that you are grateful. This will help to shift your focus and If you create an awareness of what you’re thankful for. When you have an attitude of gratitude you will naturally be more positive and can better tackle any problem with easy.

  1. Know Where You Stand

Set aside some time weekly to check your bank account and discuss your finances with your partner. Then, you don’t have to worry the rest of the week, because you know where you stand and you have deal with things.

If you don’t already one now is a good time to create a budget. A budget can serve as a real eye-opener to what you are spending your money on and it will afford you greater control over your spending habits. It will also help with the fear-of-the-unknown by giving you a firm grasp on your financial situation rather than wondering.

I taught this system to my son who is living on his own going to college and he has taught the same method to his friends. For one month or two you want to track everything you spend. First, whenever you spend money get a receipt. Second, put all your receipts in a certain spot or bowl. Third, once a week enter all your receipts onto a spread sheet.  The categories are groceries, gas, restaurant, clothes and your big bills like PG&E, mortgage or rent, internet, tv, phone. If you have bills you pay every six months or yearly you will want to take that bill and divide it by the months so you’ll know how much to save for that bill, such as DMV, insurance, taxes. By doing this you now know exactly how much you need every month to pay your bills.

  1. Build An Emergency Fund

Did you know that most people do not have a thousand dollars in their savings account? This emergency fund is in case anything unexpected happens, like having to replace your water heater. One way you can start this emergency fund is by paying the minimum on your credit cards for a few months. Another way is to cut out the luxury items. The things you don’t really need, like the morning coffee at Starbuck or the restaurants at lunch. Instead you could make your own coffee and lunch. Make it a game to see how much you can save in a month.   

Inclusion, worrying is a bad habit that can be difficult to break. You may have learned to worry from your parents or to stay on top of your finances. It could be as simply as you didn’t know where all your money is goes. Now if you follow the steps above you’ll become a non-worrier with a happier attitude about life. 

You’ll be able to look at your life with ease, happiness and envision what it would be like to live without the worry. Get motivated and use the tips above to see what you can change.

Are you stressed, worried or full of anxiety about your finances?  I know how you feel. I’ve been there with my mind is racing and I can’t turn it off, waking up in panic attacks. That’s why I wrote 101 Affirmations for Prosperity ebook and you can get it here for FREE today! https://jolenphilbrook.com/101-affirmations

Set Yourself Up for Success With These Easy 6 Steps

To me this is a magical time of year, as I can start fresh. This time of year is about reflecting on what has been and what you want to accomplish in the next year. To freely listen from your heart and be open to what you will receive in the New Year. You never know what surprises the Universe has in store for you.                                                            

Winter is the perfect time of year to look back over the year and celebrate all of your accomplishment. Just before the New Year a friend and I get together and review our goals from the previous year. I am always amazed at what I accomplished. I pick one hairy goal that scares me, so I can stretch and grow into it. A few years back my hairy goal was to learn podcasting and look at me today. I’m going on my third year and I love it. What I enjoy the most when I interview a guest is that I get to learn new things or look at the topic with new insight.

Here are the steps my friend and I do every year. We set our big goals that we want to accomplish and one scary goal for the year. Then we set our First quarterly goals and from that we set our first monthly goal and from that we decide what our goals are for the week. I think why it works so well for us is that we check in with each other once a week to see what was accomplished that week.

Last year in the second quarter I was dating someone who I felt wasn’t cherishing and respecting me. He kept canceling or had to work or his daughter had some problem. So I wrote in my relationship goal I was to be respected, cherished and honored. What was funny is that the ink disappeared only from that goal and so did he. I think it was a sign for the Universe that the relationship was disappearing. My friend teased me that I wrote my goal in disappearing ink. We had a good laugh over it.

The question to ask yourself is what is one thing you want to accomplish is each area of your life. The categories we use are business, health, fun and sometimes relationship. We have been doing this for over six years now. In the beginning we picked a lot more categories, but have learned over the years less is best. Especially if we want to accomplish our goals. If you are good in one area my advice is not to set a goal around it. For me I’m strong in spirituality. I mediate every morning and do my inner work, therefore I don’t need to set a goal around this, because I already do it. But if you are weak in this area set a simple goal. For relationship I choose to be kind to myself, as in this moment I’m not in a relationship. When I am kind to myself I am happier and that reflects to others. I practice smiling to others and talking to people I meet. When I hear things like, you brightened my day or I’m so glad you came in today, you made my day.  Then I know its working.

Making a goal is very important in trying to create what you want in your life. Just thinking about the goal or the outcome is not enough. Many experts such as Tony Robbins, Terry Cole-Whittaker, Brian Tracey, Deepak Chopra, and many others have written about the power of writing down our goals.

Charles Schwab did this exercise to build his multi-million-dollar business. Every night before he would go to bed, he would write out the 6 most important things to do to move towards his goal. He would do those 6 things first. If he did not complete all 6, he would then take the remaining actions and put them to the next day. So if one day he only accomplished 4, he would then take the remaining 2 and make that a priority for the next day.

Here are four important questions to ask yourself:                                                                               What are the steps that I need to take to achieve my goal?
Why do I want to achieve this goal?
What needs to be released?
What do I need to let go of that is no longer working for me?

The first question: “What are the steps that I need to take to achieve my goal?” These steps will turn into your action plan. For example: your goal is to save $1,200 dollars this year. Your current reality is that you have no savings. Your goal then would to save $100 a month and at the end of the year you’ll have saved the $1,200 dollars.

Taking the action is the most important part of the goal. You need to move toward the goal and get started. The steps are what it will take to succeed. Without the steps you have a goal that most likely will not be achieved. What will motivate you to take the steps is your “Why”

Which leads us to the second question, “Why do I want to achieve this goal?” Your “Why” will fuel your determination to complete it.  Another way of thinking of your “Why” is, what feelings do you need to have to achieve your goals? The feeling or the why needs to be your main focus. This will move you forward into taking the steps to achieving your goals.                                                                                                                                                          

For example:                                                                                                                                            Why: I’ll feel good that I now have a savings. Once you become really clear about what is going to keep you determined, and why you are motivated to move towards the goal, you need to ask the third question. “What do I need to release?” Think of the spectrum of where the goal is and where you are currently, as a road. Put in even more simple terms, point A to point B. What is in the road that will disguise itself as roadblocks?

This could be other people, it could be your own limiting thoughts, it could be fears, or it could be your own beliefs. Maybe you have a belief that you couldn’t possibly ever be able to save a $100 dollars a month or maybe you feel you don’t deserve it. Now’s the time to get really clear about what has stopped you in the past, and what has potential from stopping you now. If you become conscious of the roadblocks, and have clarity that they are there, you can release or avoid them. Example of a roadblocks: Going out to lunch or dinner when you could make a lunch or cook. Buying stuff that you don’t really need.    

6 Goal Setting Steps
The following guidelines will help you to set effective goals:

  • Be clear: Set a goal and set a date, so that you can measure your achievement. If you do this then, you’ll know exactly when you have reached the goal and have satisfaction from having achieved it. This really helps me as I know every Monday I have to be accountable for what I said I’ll do. There are many Sunday nights I’m finishing my ‘to do’ list.
  • Set priorities: When you have several goals, give each a priority. This helps you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by too many goals and helps to direct your attention to the most important ones.
  • Write goals down: This makes them real and gives them more force.
  • Keep goals small: Keep the low-level goals you are working towards small and achievable. If a goal is too large, then it can seem that you are not making progress towards it.  
  • Set performance goals, not outcome goals: You should set goals that you have as much control as possible. If you base your goals on personal performance, then you can keep control over the achievement of your goals and draw satisfaction from them.
  • Set realistic goals: It is important to set goals that you can achieve. You may set goals that are too high, because you may not understand how much skill you need to develop to achieve a particular level of performance. I learned this the hard way by doing an online program. I had to learn click funnels in order to put the program online.

When you have achieved a goal, take the time to enjoy the satisfaction of having done so. Stop and observe the progress you have made towards your goals. If the goal was a significant one, reward yourself appropriately. All of this helps you build the self-confidence you deserve.

What is the one thing you’d like to accomplish this year? Follow the steps we just went over and you to will be successful in achieving your goals.                       

Waiting For Things To Be Just Right

Do you have a message within you that you keep working on trying to get it perfect before you get it out to the world? Are you full of great ideas and jump from one project to another never finishing anything? Either way there is something that is showing up keeping you from your vision.

There may be a voice in your head that is causing this problem and you may not even be aware of it. Do you ever think to yourself, “This isn’t going to turn out?” “No one will want to buy this”. “I tried this before and it didn’t work.” You might have different thoughts that swirl around in your head. Why are you listening to the fears?

People who are successful have learned how to understand the thoughts in their head and move past them. They don’t let themselves stop with procrastination, confusion worry or doubt.  They talk back to those thoughts and take fast action, meaning they get it done. If you are the type of person who is waiting for it to be perfect, then today let it be good enough, it is good enough to make the first pass.  You have to step out of your comfort zone and stop procrastinating. Decide today and put it out there. Then you can tweak it later.

If, you are the type of person who starts a project and never finishes this tip will help you.  Just for today work on one project to see how far you can get on it. If you are stuck, find away to get help, but keep moving.  Tomorrow look at the project and decide if you are going to finish it or not. It is about learning to discipline yourself to finishing it. It’s about building a new muscle.  I know you can do it.

Raise Your Vibration to Attract More Success

Do you have the desire to increase your income? Would you like to live a better life where you have more than enough money to do what you want when you want? There is something you can do to create your desire and raise your vibration.

Prosperity begins in the mind and it is impossible to hold a prosperous attitude when on is full of anxiety, worry or fear. It’s impossible to hold a prosperous attitude when one is worried, fretting over their bills and is full of doubt. We can’t attract wealth, when we have a lacking poverty consciousness. This lacking attitude drives away what we long for, which is prosperity, peace of mind and freedom.

When you raise your consciousness to a higher thought pattern and take action, magic happened. But question may arise, how do you do that?

To raise one’s vibration to the energy of success one needs to align their thoughts, feeling and actions to the energy of their desire. Success starts with the inner game. Your thoughts lead to your feelings which leads to your behavior and actions. Prosperity isn’t something that you acquire. It’s an attitude towards life. It is having a certain way of thinking and living.

 True prosperity is a shift in one’s consciousness. Simply stated its cause and effect. Prosperity is the cause within one’s mind and money is the effect of the shift within ones consciousness. When we learn to think a certain way we automatically attract prosperity.

Now here’s the part people forget. You just can’t think about success you have to take action and work towards it. You have to make the first move. The Universe can only support you if you are moving towards a desire. When you take the first step, then the Universe shows up to support you, while you are moving towards your desire. It is important to have a clear intention on the outcome you want to receive, but be open within the context that it will show up. As it will show up in the least unexpected ways. Sometimes it is even disguised as a struggle or obstacle. Be flexible to how it will show up. Don’t be so cemented to an idea that you miss the opportunity.

Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. The goal is to keep your thoughts positive towards your desire. Use language such as, “I can do it!” instead of I can’t or I don’t know how or it won’t work. When you have thoughts like these turn them around and reframe them. Tell yourself that is a made up story and it no longer is true today. Then tell yourself what it is that you do want. Here an intention you can affirm: Success is my Divine right. If others can do it I can do it too.  I am succeeding by leaps and bounds. Today I claim my success. It’s a good idea to say your intention a couple times in a row to help your subconscious mind absorb it.

Another step you could do is to notice how you are feeling during the day.

Have you ever played with your energy, you know the way you show up in the world. You can appear as a happy, easy going person who smile, as you greet others or you can be a grumpy, angry person who frowns at others. The choice to how you show up in the world is yours.

It’s really about your attitude and how you feel. Then your body supports your thoughts and feeling and the Universe give you feedback. How others respond to you is the feedback you receive.

The key is to notice if you feel heavy or light, up or down, sad or mad. If you are feeing heavy, down, sad or mad then it’s time to clear your energy to feel lighter. You are carrying around stuck energy that is no longer serving you. It is time to let it go. Let go the anger, resentment, guilt, shame and sadness. The Hawaiian prayer would be a good one to do for yourself if you are feeling guilty about something. You could cry into a pillow or beat it to express all the emotions you shoved down, such as sadness, resentment, anger or shame. The exercise I use the most is to feel the feelings and breathe through it, saying to myself, “I release this feeling.”  It is important to let these stored emotions go, so that they don’t cause pain or disease in the body.

The last step is to notice when you take action towards your desire. Are your thoughts and feelings positive, full of excitement and happy or are they the opposite? Full of worry, fear and doubt. As you go about your day stop occasionally and just notice how you are feeling. If you don’t like it shift it. The key is to stay 51% in the state of joy, love and happiness. Keep practicing shifting your emotions to keep your vibrational state at a higher rate. I know you can do.

 If you would like to learn more about how I could help you breakthrough to prosperity of manifest abundance in your life  just email me at Jolen@jolenPhilbrook.com and put mindset in the subject line and I’ll drop you an answer.

 

Building A Consciousness Of Prosperity

Are you wishing some part of your life would be better or happier? You know that it is possible, because you see others who have it all. They have a nice home, a great paying job, they drive a new BMW and are in a loving relationship.

According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary prosper means: To favor; to render successful, to become strong and flourishing, marked by success or economic well-being. Prosper is defined as to do well or succeed in life. It implies easy access to all that is good and desirable to have a satisfying life.

How do you have a prosperous life?

Prosperity is simply a choice. What do I mean by that? Living prosperous is not a matter of what you actually have, but how you think. You can live a prosperous life by simply making a few changes in your own thinking. One of the easiest ways to do that is to appreciate what you already have.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “A man is what he thinks about all day long.”

Where’s your focus? What are you thinking about? Are you looking at what you don’t have, what you need or want? When you think this way you are coming from lack. You are focused on what you don’t have. When we get into a state of lack we can’t think of anything else. It’s at the fore front of our mind.

You may be wondering, why is this important?

It is important because, Divine substance is shaping itself around your thoughts and materializing it in your life. The thoughts you think are creating your life. The secret is to keep your mind off your troubles and keep them centered in your good. Focus on a desired outcome that you want.

You cannot build a new consciousness of prosperity until you have cleared a space for it. You do that by eliminating the old lack, limiting, poverty thoughts. It is about expanding your consciousness to accept more good into your life. One does that by releasing the thoughts that don’t serve you anymore.

When you focus on your good, your mind starts to tune out the limiting thoughts. You can do this by asking yourself, “Is this still true for me today?” If not, then reframe the thought, right then and there. Another thing you can do is to cancel the thought. Right after you are aware of the negative thought, immediately say the word, “Cancel.” You will want to say it three times in a row. The reason why is because it takes three times before your brain pays attention.

One action you can take today towards reframing your mindset is to start looking at nature. Think about a tree. You see a big, strong, brown trunk that branches off to many smaller branches that hold its leaves. A tree doesn’t have one leaf on it. There are hundreds. Take it a step further by thinking about prosperity, abundance and there is more than enough. There is an abundance of leaves on the tree. There is an abundance of branches.

Let’s take an apple tree for example. When an apple tree blooms there are tons of beautiful pink flowers that turn into big red, succulent apples. When the tree is so full of ripe, sweet, juicy apples the branches are bending over and touching the ground. Apples fall off in abundance. In Nature there are no limitations. It is all about abundant.  You were created like the apple tree. Therefore you too are abundant. Let’s be open to accepting our abundance. It is our natural state.

By thinking about abundance this way you are focusing on your good instead of lack. You have shifted your mind set from lack to more than enough and then you are proving it to yourself by find abundance in your world around you.

Poverty and prosperity are states of mind. Every effect is because of its cause. If there were no lacking, poverty thoughts there would be no poverty conditions. Thought equals condition. Cause equals effect. Inner concept equals outer effect. As a man thinketh, which is on the inside, so he is on the outside.

I leave you with this thought. Where is your focus? Is it on your desire or what you are lacking in your life? Before a desire can appear it must first be thought of and believed. Your power to tune in the good is your secret strategy to success. What will you focus on today?

Discover 4 Obstacles Stopping Your Success

Are you letting your obstacles stop you from living the life we want?  Do you even know what your barriers are? Obstacles, blocks, and barriers fall into four categories. There’s Fear, Criticism, Resentment and Guilt. I’ll be explaining each of these, so you will be able to exam your own life to see what is stopping you from the life you desire.

Remember our experiences always reflect our inner beliefs and whatever you believe becomes your reality. If you want to know what your inner beliefs are, just take a look around at your life and environment. Look at your friends and family, are they happy, kind and supportive or do they always take your time, money and energy? What about where you work? Do you wake up happy to go to work or do you dread it.

Let’s go over the 4 Obstacles:

The first one is fear: What is fear anyhow?  F.E.A.R. = False   Expectations   Appearing    Real

It’s time to stop scaring yourself. How often do you terrorize yourself with your thoughts? You take your problem and blow it up, which make it worse, then you blow it up a little more. Now you worry about it, you lose sleep over it. You can’t get it out of your mind. It’s all you think about. The secret is, no one is doing a thing to you. It is your reaction and you’re thinking towards your problem. Why not make a list of your fears and turn them then around into the positive of what you want. Affirmations are a good way to turn your thinking around.

Did you know one idle thought doesn’t do a lot or make a lot of difference? You think 60,000 thoughts a day. But if you took that one idle thought and dwell on it with a strong emotion, then you have a lot of negative energy on that subject.

Let’s compare a thought to a drop of water. One drop doesn’t mean much, but if you keep adding to that drop of water, now you have a puddle on the counter that drips down to the floor where it turns into a pond. Now your house is flooded and the waters going out the door to make a lake. That lake turns into an ocean. Now you have an ocean with your accumulated thoughts, which are huge and there is a lot of power behind it. You can drown in the ocean of negativity or you can float on the ocean of life. It is all up to you.

What kind of puddle are you standing in? Or are you drowning in an ocean of negative thought? How are you thinking? What are you focused on? When will you be ready to change? Today is a good day don’t you think. We can change our experiences by changing our thinking.  

Sometimes an old thought comes back to us and rolls around in our mind. Well my friends, this is keeping you stuck. It is time to let it go and move forward. I found when this happens I just say, “Thanks for sharing, but the truth is…” and you fill in the blank with a positive statement such as, I am a wonderful person. I am successful. I am happy. You get the idea.

What you are doing is retraining your mind how to think. Did you know when you think a thought either positive or negative that it goes out and connects with others with the same thought pattern? Have you ever noticed a group of friends together and one group is laughing and having fun and the other group talks about illness and depressing stuff. Birds that flock together stay together. People that think a-like hang out together.

When we are learning something new it’s a good idea to be gentle with yourself. The last thing we want to do is beat ourselves up and go back to the old way. How do we finally know if we have really learned it? What you do is bring up the old situation again. It’s like were testing ourselves. We take a step forward and then backwards to see if we really have learned the new way. If you react the new way then you know for sure that you have gotten it. Now you can move on to something else.

The second one is criticism. Criticism keeps us stuck. Stop all criticism. Start first with yourself then move to other people.  Learn how to change the criticism to praise and approval. What you don’t like about yourself are patterns that you created to deal with a problem in your life.

Change the negative thought or criticism to praise. Say, “I like myself, I approve of myself, I am wonderful.” When you accept who you are, then you bring out the best in yourself. Procrastination is not loving yourself. I want you to know how wonderful you really are. A lot of people think I’ll be a better person if only… but what you’re really saying is that you’re not good enough. We want to overcome “not being good enough”. Be willing to Love and approve of yourself just the way you are and let all the negative stuff fall away.

The third one is guilt. People tell us negative things as a way to manipulate us. They lay guilt on us to control us and guilt is the easiest way to manipulate someone. Guilt never solves anything so don’t put guilt on others, just give out good intentions. What we give out is what we get back. Guilt always looks for punishment and punishment creates pain in yourself and others. 

If someone is laying guilt on you ask yourself, “What is it that they want?” Why are they doing this? Do you want to give it to them or not? You have a mind of your own and you’re an adult not a small child that needs to be controlled. What do you choose to believe is true for you now, today?

The last one is resentment. Resentment is unresolved anger. It is anger that got shoved down. Too many of us were raised where we weren’t allowed to be angry. Anger was not acceptable, so we swallowed down our anger. Swallowed down anger becomes resentment, which is now lodged down in the body. Resentment takes seed in the body and starts eating away at the body. We have to realize that we are the ones holding on to the resentment. No one else is involved. It’s like running an old movie in your mind over and over again. It is time to get over it and be free from it. We need to go beyond it. Resentment is only a thought and thoughts can be changed. Be willing to forgive yourself, the event and let go of the past. A good way to let go of resentment is to breath though it. Just feel the emotion and as you exhale and let it go. 

Now that we understand what our biggest obstacles, blocks and barriers are. There is one emotions that you can turn to and practice. That is love. Practice loving yourself. Praise yourself and what you do. Appreciate yourself, what you have and have do so far in life.

Love is one of the biggest healers there is. It stimulates your immune system and fights diseases. Dis-ease is a way we punish ourselves because we don’t love ourselves. People fight not loving themselves, but did you know when you were born, you loved yourself. You were perfect. It was society that taught you that it wasn’t ok to love yourself. Loving yourself is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. When you respect and appreciate yourself, it makes everything in your life flow. Today, why not tell yourself, “I am wonderful”. “I approve of myself”. “I’m ok the way I am”. Pick one and go for it or make up your own phase. Turn it into a chant and say it all day long, but most of all have fun.  

 

3 Mistakes of Manifestation

What I have noticed is that some people make a few mistakes when it comes to manifesting their goals and desires. These few mistakes prevent them from achieving their dream and deepest desires.

Here are the 3 mistakes of manifestation

The biggest mistake I found is that most people don’t really know what they want.

If you ask your friend what they want usually they tell you what they don’t want. For example: a friend and I were going to go out to dinner. We were deciding what type of food we wanted to eat. My friend said, “I had Mexican for lunch, so I don’t want that.” I don’t like Italian, so that’s out. How about a steak house? No, we don’t have enough time as we have to be at our destination in one hour. If we can’t make up our mind what we want for dinner how are we going to decide what we want in life?   

You create your reality with your thoughts and feelings. If you keep flip, flopping and jump from one desire to another without asking yourself, “Why do I want it?” or what is the reason why it’s important? You will never receive it. The reason and why are important to know. They help motivate you towards your desire. The key here is to get clear on what it is that you really do want and why is it important to you.

The second mistake is setting the wrong type of goals.

We often set goals that we think will bring us the happiness that we are searching for. The truth is that nothing outside of yourself can bring you happiness. Sure a new car or a beautiful new home will bring you happiness, but after a while that happiness fades. Then, you’re left wondering why aren’t  I happy? Or where did my happiness go?

In order to set goal that connect to your happiness you have to find out why you want what you want. One way to do that is by ask yourself a few questions to get clear on why you want it.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself…

  • Why do I want this?
  • How will it make my life better?
  • Who is it going to benefit besides myself?

The answers to these questions will help you get clear about the goals you are setting. Often we want things that don’t really matter all that much and we waste a lot of time and energy concentrating on the wrong type of goal.

The key here is to figure out the reason why you want that goal. What will it bring you? And what will that do for you? And why is that important to you? Keep drilling down until you get to the main reason.

That is your big why. Your big why will be your driving force, as you work on your goal. When I did this exercise I found out that the reason why I want a successful business is to help others.

Then, I kept drilling down.  What will that give me? And what will that give me and what will that give me? I uncovered that having a successful business would give me freedom, happiness, expansion, spiritual growth, connections, growth and then I uncovered my driving force to help others is all about fulfilling my mission.

 Now that you know what you want and the main reason why you want it.  The next step is to visualize it.  You can visualize sitting on a chair or in your car waiting for the stop light to change colors. Any time during the day and also during a meditation. Visualization simply means that you image our desired outcome for your future. When you visualize be sure to add feelings of excitement as you imagine yourself being or doing your desire.

The third mistake is thinking negative thoughts

We all have negative thoughts floating around in our head. They have been put there from our early childhood years. The key today is not to continuing think negatively and believe them or dwell on the negative thoughts.

The reason why according to the Law of Manifestation is what you think about you bring about. In one way or another you manifest everything you think about. The key here is to monitor your thoughts. When you find yourself thinking negatively. Cancel it or say, “Stop.”  Then say something positive five times in a row to cancel out the negative thought.

When we take the time to monitor our thoughts we can uncover the beliefs that stop us from creating our desire.  

Now that we have uncovered the 3 biggest mistakes to Manifesting and how to turn them around to create our desires. I curious which step are you going to start with first.

Are you going to sit down and get clear on what it is that you want and why you want it or are you going to pay attention to your thoughts and language?

 

 

In Chaotic Times, Change Is Calling You

  In Chaotic Times, Change Is Calling You

Life at times is chaotic, full of doubts and feelings of confusion. In this chaotic times, life challenges you to change. Usually it is time for an internal shift in the way we think that creates an external change that is seen in your life. When you are going through this transformation you feel as if you are being bounced between two worlds of confusion and clarity, success and failure, pain and pleasure. If you relax into the change you will be guide towards the easy path, but if you resist the change you will grow through difficulties and challenges instead of ease.

Change is happening all the time, but sometimes we are not aware of it. The reason why is because we do it every day.

The sun comes up, we wake up for a new day. We go about our day doing the same things, shower, eat and go to work. The sun goes down, we wind down to close out that day and rest during the night when the moon is up. It seems on the outside we are doing the same thing, but our thoughts or feeling are different each and every day. If we stop to think or feel what we are telling ourselves our day will change by our attitude.

The seasons change and transform every three months, so that the plants can rest, grow in spring, bloom in summer, let go of their leaves and dead flowers in the fall and rest again in winter. They don’t fight the change. The just do it, because it is their path. It is their job to change. In the middle of winter there are huge storms and high winds. The tall pine trees bend and flow with the strong winds. They are flexible. We could learn a lot from watching the trees in a storm.

When we go through a major change, a transformation in our life, our whole world changes. We become a different person, as our outer world changes. We can go through this change with ease or dragging our feet. In the beginning of change I think most people drag their feet, procrastinate and fight it, because no one likes major change. I know I do. Change disrupts our life. We have to think and feel in a new way. Something has to change in our outer life, a new job, divorce, death, birth or moving. With this new outer change the inner self is being stretched to grow and evolve.

One way to look at this expansion is with a new mindset. One could say, “I’m open to being stretched so that I can grow into a new being.” Or you could say, “All my experiences happen for my best and highest good.” It will help you go through the change a lot easier. Remember the pine tree bends and is flexible in the strong wind. Why not be like a pine tree and bend to the change and be flexible in the middle of the transformation. You will go through it a lot easier.

Now if you are having a really hard time with your productivity, a negative mindset or limiting beliefs. I would love to help you by rewiring your mind to money, wealth and abundance. I’m known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. My specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck emotions so that you can attract more money, success, prosperity and happiness in your life. Just email me at jolen@jolenphilbrook.com and put “mindset” in the subject line.   I would love to hear from you, bye

 

 

 

Get Something Done With This Hot Technique

Have you ever looked at your life and realized something needed to change? It’s like you’re at a standstill. You’re not moving forward. I looked at my life and I realized I wasn’t happy. It seemed that nothing was happening. See, I just officially broke up with the guy I was dating for two years and it’s been on again, off again for the last three month. The extra ten pounds are still hanging on since Christmas and now it’s April. My big goals weren’t getting done and the house is full of clutter. My life is a mess. It’s time for a change. Have you ever felt that way?

I decided to put myself on a 30 Day Productivity Challenge. The two areas of my life I wanted to change were my business and my eating habits. I spoke with a good friend who said she also needed to spice up her life and said she would do it with me.

 

Here’s the challenge I designed.

Wake up 5:30 am and meditate

7am check-in call.

Where I share what I’m eating that day and what type of exercise I’m going to do. Since I don’t exercise, my goal is to do 10 minutes of something. I’m deleting sugar, flour, dairy, alcohol, peanuts, beans and grains from my diet. Once a week is treat day and we are to share our successes.

7:15am ride my stationary bike or stretch

7:30am shower and breakfast

8am in the office- productive things

12:30 lunch

1pm in the office-productive things

3pm do unproductive things- errands, read, paint, housework, etc.

5pm walk

6pm dinner

7pm office- easy, no brain projects

8pm relax

9:30/10pm bed

To keep myself motivated I asked myself, “Why are you doing this?” I made a list of all the benefits. One list for my business and one list for my health. Sounds like a good plan doesn’t it.

Day 1: I woke up at 5:25am meditated and had my 7 am check-in call. I was in the office by 8:30am. Half hour late, not bad for the first day. I tracked my time all day and notice a simple errand took me 2 hours. A few Facebook post took an hour. My biggest observation was when I was procrastinating. I asked myself, “Why?” After a little talk with myself I buckled down and started working. I felt very successful about my day.

Day 2: I woke up at 6:45am feeling tired. 7am call we readjusted our program to wake up at 6am and sleep in on week-ends but still have 7 am call every day. I was in the office at 8am but by 9am I took a nap. I was too tired to work. Back in the office at 10:30 reminding myself why I chose to do this. What am I crazy? Why am I doing this to myself? I made it to lunch and after lunch I had to take another nap. By 4pm I was done for the day. Observation for the day: I was really tired and not feeling well. Took two naps and noticed it took longer to do things than I thought.

Day 7: Observation: I noticed I am going strong in the morning and get a lot of stuff done in the office. In the afternoon I’m tired and my energy is not as strong. I push myself to declutter the shelf in the bedroom or go through a pile of papers in the office. I’ve got to stop writing every down on little pieces of paper. Went out and bought a few notebooks to write in. One for ideas, one for projects, one for podcast, and one for blogs. Now it’s all contained and no more piles of paper. Yeah!

Day 10: Observation: I’m not getting up at 6am its more like 6:10-6:20am I’ve shorten my mediation time for sleep. I notice when I’m working on a project in the office and when it gets hard, I get distracted with something else like Facebook. I’m not putting in the productive hours to succeed. I notice that I’m stuck and now I’m able to get out of it faster.

Day 15: Observation: Wow! I’m half way through. I’ve definitely have been more productive. I just finished writing a sales page for my new program called Create Your Abundance Mindset. It’s a huge project and I just knocked a big hunk of it down. I’m so proud of myself. Funny thing is even the art work I’m painting for my son is ridged. He wants a painting like Piet Mondrian who paints in red, yellow, white and blue squares all trimmed in black.

The art world says its abstract, which I wonder about, because how can squares be abstract? Now I have to paint in straight lines. I don’t like straight lines. I like curves. I’m looking forward to the day I can go back to painting tall, breezy palm trees on the sandy beach of the beautiful blue ocean.

Well that’s it for now. I’ll have to keep you posted for the next fifteen day and how my 30 day challenge ended. If you find there is an area in your life that isn’t working I invite you to a 30 day challenge. Who know what you can accomplish. Just look at what I’ve done.

When is enough, enough?

When is enough, enough? How long do you want to struggle? How long do you want to suffer, stay stuck and unhappy? These were the questions, I asked myself.

See my life was bobbing along, nothing great was going on. As a matter of fact, I was gaining weight, just broke up with my boyfriend after two years. I was over working and not having any fun in life. It seemed like I was just getting by, making just enough money to pay the bills and some months I had to dip into my savings just to make ends meet. My biggest fear was that my saving would get used up and I’d run out of money. Have you ever had that thought or feeling?

When is enough, enough? How much longer do you want to live this way? I pondered these questions.

Then one night I had a dream. Now typically, I don’t remember my dreams, but this one I did. I think because it had a message at the end of it. Here’s the dream: My son and I were talking to a good looking man in the store. Next scene-my son and I were in the driver’s seat of the car, turned around smiling, waving and laughing to the man in the store. I noticed the car was rolling backwards down a curvy, windy road and picking up speed. I realized I had better drive.

The car was going around the corner to fast as I pump the breaks, nothing. I pumped the breaks and gain, still nothing. I down shifted to slow the car down.  The car spun around and now there was a fork in the road. The road ahead was long and smooth. The road to the right was up a mountain. I saw a car on that road, so I decided to take the mountain road.

All of a sudden I was traveling over huge grey granite boulders and the road disappears at the tip, top of the huge mountain. I’m hanging on to the steering wheel sitting with nothing but blue sky around me and grey granite boulders below. I scream out, “911, help!”

Next scene-there’s a room with three police 911 dispatcher’s, each one was sitting and looking at their computer screen. On the screen it looked like google maps with a red dot marking the location. They seem to be tracking the people and their location. One of the police says, “I’ve got a 911 cry for help.” The dispatcher’s chat among themselves and the next thing I know I’m being picked up and put on the smooth road and I drive off. End of dream.

Conclusion-it is my opinion from this dream that we are always being watched after. We have a choice to where we want to go in life. We can take the scary road full of rocks, boulders, struggle and hardship or we can take the easy, smooth road that is free sailing.  The choice is yours.

If you choose the hard road full of struggle. You will travel on this road until you call out for help. Saying, “I’ve had enough.” To me the 911 dispatcher were our guides watching over us. They can’t interfere with our lives until we ask for help. Usually we get into this mess only to realize that we can’t get out of it alone and that is when we turn to Spirit and ask for help. But what if we could ask for help along the way? Wouldn’t our lives be easier? Our life would be smoother and you would be living in the flow of ease and grace. It is all about choice and how you want to live your life. Today, I ask you, “When is enough, enough?” “How long do you want to struggle before you ask for help?”

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