3 Secrets to a Prosperity Mindset

Do you think money is easy to come by or do you think money is hard to get? Do you belief you deserve to have money flowing in from all the things you do or do you only get paid for certain things you do? Do you believe you have to struggle and work hard for your money?

If you are like most people, you have some type of block that keeps money from flowing into your life or business.

Let’s talk about the 3 Secrets to A Prosperity Mindset. While you are going through these 3 secrets, open your heart and be compassionate with yourself. Remember we are just learning and practicing. Ok great, let’s get started…

Secret #1: Is to Identify Your Current Prosperity Mindset.

Your mind has positive ideas about money, prosperity and abundance. You mind also has negative ideas about money, prosperity and abundance.  I am inviting you to think about the negative ideas about money, prosperity and abundance.

A prosperity mindset is how you think and feel about money. Why is this important? It’s important because it’s how you look at prosperity with a certain point of view, values and worth that determine how much wealth, abundance and prosperity you’ll allow yourself to have.

What is a mindset and why is it important? According to dictionary.com Mindset means:  the ideas and attitudes with which a person approaches a situation.

Another way to look at mindset is that it’s a set of beliefs about yourself and your most basic qualities such as your intelligence, your talents and your personality.

Ask Yourself This Questions:

  • If I allow money in, what negative consequences I will have to deal with?
    • Is there a belief that someone will take your money from you?
    • Is there a belief that you will lose it or fail?
    • Will you be judge by your family or not belong.
    • What is your deep hidden concern?

Did you discover that there are some thoughts and feelings that might be stopping your from allow money, prosperity and abundance in? You may want to spend some time to listen to yourself talk about money to uncover what your negative beliefs are.

If the money is not flowing in, there is a part of your mind saying ‘no’ to it. The next step is get your mind to say yes. When you can get the yes inside of you. Then you can hear “yes” out in the world.

Secret #2 Create New Beliefs About Prosperity.
Now I Invite You To Answer These Two Questions:

  • What new belief do I want to have that would make it easy to allow money in?
  • What new belief do I want to have that would make it easy and fun to be a prosperous person?

For me the one I use it that I am open to receive all my good or money flows to me from many income streams. Then, I practice feeling prosperous.

The key is to choose a new beliefs that resonates with you and supports your ability to allow in money and wealth. The next step is to observe your mind and live prosperous, which brings us to…

Secret #3 Reinforce Your New Beliefs.

Your mind is your most powerful piece of success equipment. The key is to pay attention to your language and when you notice you are talking negative about money, switch to something positive right away.

This simple exercise stop, drop and roll helps you shift any negative thoughts or feelings about money or judgments about yourself or anything that you know, is NOT a prosperity mindset.

Say “Stop” (out loud or silently to yourself) that’s the old mindset.  “Drop” (drop that thought immediately). “Switch” (Switch out the new belief) The truth is…” start saying your new beliefs that you wrote in the Secret #2 section and keep focusing on it until you feel good and excited about money and prosperity. By practicing this it will help shift your mindset so that you feel powerful and confident around money and prosperity.

Now if you are having a really hard time with your mind chatter or limiting beliefs. I would love to help you unlock your prosperity from the inside.

I’m known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. My specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck emotions so that you can attract more money, success, prosperity and happiness in your life.

Just email me at jolen@jolenphilbrook.com and put “mindset” in the subject line. I would love to hear from you. 

 

5 Steps to Turn Worry Around

Worrying about money has been so ingrained in our culture today that it has literally become an epidemic. We are not only worrying over money, we talk about it with our friends. We toss and turn all night thinking about it. We spend our energy thinking about the worst case scenario and all possible negative outcomes of the situation. It’s top of mind. All this worrying has gotten you nowhere, but you can turn this all around by changing the way you think and change what you are doing.

Here are some steps to help you.  

  1. Change Your Focus

When I am super stressed and worrying about my finances I ask myself, “What am I focused on?” Usually I notice I’m really in a negative state of mind, so I ask myself, “Do I want more of this?” Usually the answer is no. See when you are focused on a negative emotion such as worry, you are creating more of what you don’t want into your life.  The key is to notice it and turn it around.

  1. Get a Mantra or Song

The reason you want a mantra or song is to help shift the energy. When you say your mantra or sing your song your energy shift and raises to a higher level. The more positive energy you tell yourself, the more you will believe and embody it. One way to do this is with a mantra, which is a positive sentence you repeat to yourself every time you begin to worry. Mine is “God is my source.” This reminds me that when I align to the energy of abundance it comes to me from many different streams of income. That I’m in control of my life and I’m choosing the experience I’m having in this moment. Do I want the experience to be pleasant full of trust and faith or stress and worry? To remind myself to say my mantra I painted a small palm tree on a sandy beach on a 3 x5 card and post it in my kitchen window.  You could write yours on a 3×5 card with color markers and put it somewhere you’ll see it often, such as your bathroom mirror, in your car or on your computer monitor.

Create a fun song to sing. When I drive I sing my song. You can make something up on the fly or think about your song and write it down so that you remember it. My song goes like this…Thank you for this day Spirit. Thank you for this day. This wonderful day, this wonderful day. Thank you for my clients Spirit. Thank you for my clients. My wonderful clients, my wonderful clients. Thank you Spirit for the opportunities to make money today.  The wonderful opportunities, the wonderful opportunities. Thank you for this day Spirit. Thank you for this day. This wonderful day, this wonderful day.

The key here is to feel good when you sing your song. You could sing it in the shower, in the car or at night when you’re getting ready for bed.  

  1. Go into Gratitude

Gratitude is a higher vibration and it’s harder to focus on the negatives in life, when one is being grateful. One way to do this is to write down five positive things that happened during your day. You’ll want to do this every evening before bed for at least two weeks. In the morning when you wake up write five things that you are grateful. This will help to shift your focus and If you create an awareness of what you’re thankful for. When you have an attitude of gratitude you will naturally be more positive and can better tackle any problem with easy.

  1. Know Where You Stand

Set aside some time weekly to check your bank account and discuss your finances with your partner. Then, you don’t have to worry the rest of the week, because you know where you stand and you have deal with things.

If you don’t already one now is a good time to create a budget. A budget can serve as a real eye-opener to what you are spending your money on and it will afford you greater control over your spending habits. It will also help with the fear-of-the-unknown by giving you a firm grasp on your financial situation rather than wondering.

I taught this system to my son who is living on his own going to college and he has taught the same method to his friends. For one month or two you want to track everything you spend. First, whenever you spend money get a receipt. Second, put all your receipts in a certain spot or bowl. Third, once a week enter all your receipts onto a spread sheet.  The categories are groceries, gas, restaurant, clothes and your big bills like PG&E, mortgage or rent, internet, tv, phone. If you have bills you pay every six months or yearly you will want to take that bill and divide it by the months so you’ll know how much to save for that bill, such as DMV, insurance, taxes. By doing this you now know exactly how much you need every month to pay your bills.

  1. Build An Emergency Fund

Did you know that most people do not have a thousand dollars in their savings account? This emergency fund is in case anything unexpected happens, like having to replace your water heater. One way you can start this emergency fund is by paying the minimum on your credit cards for a few months. Another way is to cut out the luxury items. The things you don’t really need, like the morning coffee at Starbuck or the restaurants at lunch. Instead you could make your own coffee and lunch. Make it a game to see how much you can save in a month.   

Inclusion, worrying is a bad habit that can be difficult to break. You may have learned to worry from your parents or to stay on top of your finances. It could be as simply as you didn’t know where all your money is goes. Now if you follow the steps above you’ll become a non-worrier with a happier attitude about life. 

You’ll be able to look at your life with ease, happiness and envision what it would be like to live without the worry. Get motivated and use the tips above to see what you can change.

Are you stressed, worried or full of anxiety about your finances?  I know how you feel. I’ve been there with my mind is racing and I can’t turn it off, waking up in panic attacks. That’s why I wrote 101 Affirmations for Prosperity ebook and you can get it here for FREE today! https://jolenphilbrook.com/101-affirmations

Set Yourself Up for Success With These Easy 6 Steps

To me this is a magical time of year, as I can start fresh. This time of year is about reflecting on what has been and what you want to accomplish in the next year. To freely listen from your heart and be open to what you will receive in the New Year. You never know what surprises the Universe has in store for you.                                                            

Winter is the perfect time of year to look back over the year and celebrate all of your accomplishment. Just before the New Year a friend and I get together and review our goals from the previous year. I am always amazed at what I accomplished. I pick one hairy goal that scares me, so I can stretch and grow into it. A few years back my hairy goal was to learn podcasting and look at me today. I’m going on my third year and I love it. What I enjoy the most when I interview a guest is that I get to learn new things or look at the topic with new insight.

Here are the steps my friend and I do every year. We set our big goals that we want to accomplish and one scary goal for the year. Then we set our First quarterly goals and from that we set our first monthly goal and from that we decide what our goals are for the week. I think why it works so well for us is that we check in with each other once a week to see what was accomplished that week.

Last year in the second quarter I was dating someone who I felt wasn’t cherishing and respecting me. He kept canceling or had to work or his daughter had some problem. So I wrote in my relationship goal I was to be respected, cherished and honored. What was funny is that the ink disappeared only from that goal and so did he. I think it was a sign for the Universe that the relationship was disappearing. My friend teased me that I wrote my goal in disappearing ink. We had a good laugh over it.

The question to ask yourself is what is one thing you want to accomplish is each area of your life. The categories we use are business, health, fun and sometimes relationship. We have been doing this for over six years now. In the beginning we picked a lot more categories, but have learned over the years less is best. Especially if we want to accomplish our goals. If you are good in one area my advice is not to set a goal around it. For me I’m strong in spirituality. I mediate every morning and do my inner work, therefore I don’t need to set a goal around this, because I already do it. But if you are weak in this area set a simple goal. For relationship I choose to be kind to myself, as in this moment I’m not in a relationship. When I am kind to myself I am happier and that reflects to others. I practice smiling to others and talking to people I meet. When I hear things like, you brightened my day or I’m so glad you came in today, you made my day.  Then I know its working.

Making a goal is very important in trying to create what you want in your life. Just thinking about the goal or the outcome is not enough. Many experts such as Tony Robbins, Terry Cole-Whittaker, Brian Tracey, Deepak Chopra, and many others have written about the power of writing down our goals.

Charles Schwab did this exercise to build his multi-million-dollar business. Every night before he would go to bed, he would write out the 6 most important things to do to move towards his goal. He would do those 6 things first. If he did not complete all 6, he would then take the remaining actions and put them to the next day. So if one day he only accomplished 4, he would then take the remaining 2 and make that a priority for the next day.

Here are four important questions to ask yourself:                                                                               What are the steps that I need to take to achieve my goal?
Why do I want to achieve this goal?
What needs to be released?
What do I need to let go of that is no longer working for me?

The first question: “What are the steps that I need to take to achieve my goal?” These steps will turn into your action plan. For example: your goal is to save $1,200 dollars this year. Your current reality is that you have no savings. Your goal then would to save $100 a month and at the end of the year you’ll have saved the $1,200 dollars.

Taking the action is the most important part of the goal. You need to move toward the goal and get started. The steps are what it will take to succeed. Without the steps you have a goal that most likely will not be achieved. What will motivate you to take the steps is your “Why”

Which leads us to the second question, “Why do I want to achieve this goal?” Your “Why” will fuel your determination to complete it.  Another way of thinking of your “Why” is, what feelings do you need to have to achieve your goals? The feeling or the why needs to be your main focus. This will move you forward into taking the steps to achieving your goals.                                                                                                                                                          

For example:                                                                                                                                            Why: I’ll feel good that I now have a savings. Once you become really clear about what is going to keep you determined, and why you are motivated to move towards the goal, you need to ask the third question. “What do I need to release?” Think of the spectrum of where the goal is and where you are currently, as a road. Put in even more simple terms, point A to point B. What is in the road that will disguise itself as roadblocks?

This could be other people, it could be your own limiting thoughts, it could be fears, or it could be your own beliefs. Maybe you have a belief that you couldn’t possibly ever be able to save a $100 dollars a month or maybe you feel you don’t deserve it. Now’s the time to get really clear about what has stopped you in the past, and what has potential from stopping you now. If you become conscious of the roadblocks, and have clarity that they are there, you can release or avoid them. Example of a roadblocks: Going out to lunch or dinner when you could make a lunch or cook. Buying stuff that you don’t really need.    

6 Goal Setting Steps
The following guidelines will help you to set effective goals:

  • Be clear: Set a goal and set a date, so that you can measure your achievement. If you do this then, you’ll know exactly when you have reached the goal and have satisfaction from having achieved it. This really helps me as I know every Monday I have to be accountable for what I said I’ll do. There are many Sunday nights I’m finishing my ‘to do’ list.
  • Set priorities: When you have several goals, give each a priority. This helps you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by too many goals and helps to direct your attention to the most important ones.
  • Write goals down: This makes them real and gives them more force.
  • Keep goals small: Keep the low-level goals you are working towards small and achievable. If a goal is too large, then it can seem that you are not making progress towards it.  
  • Set performance goals, not outcome goals: You should set goals that you have as much control as possible. If you base your goals on personal performance, then you can keep control over the achievement of your goals and draw satisfaction from them.
  • Set realistic goals: It is important to set goals that you can achieve. You may set goals that are too high, because you may not understand how much skill you need to develop to achieve a particular level of performance. I learned this the hard way by doing an online program. I had to learn click funnels in order to put the program online.

When you have achieved a goal, take the time to enjoy the satisfaction of having done so. Stop and observe the progress you have made towards your goals. If the goal was a significant one, reward yourself appropriately. All of this helps you build the self-confidence you deserve.

What is the one thing you’d like to accomplish this year? Follow the steps we just went over and you to will be successful in achieving your goals.                       

Raise Your Vibration to Attract More Success

Do you have the desire to increase your income? Would you like to live a better life where you have more than enough money to do what you want when you want? There is something you can do to create your desire and raise your vibration.

Prosperity begins in the mind and it is impossible to hold a prosperous attitude when on is full of anxiety, worry or fear. It’s impossible to hold a prosperous attitude when one is worried, fretting over their bills and is full of doubt. We can’t attract wealth, when we have a lacking poverty consciousness. This lacking attitude drives away what we long for, which is prosperity, peace of mind and freedom.

When you raise your consciousness to a higher thought pattern and take action, magic happened. But question may arise, how do you do that?

To raise one’s vibration to the energy of success one needs to align their thoughts, feeling and actions to the energy of their desire. Success starts with the inner game. Your thoughts lead to your feelings which leads to your behavior and actions. Prosperity isn’t something that you acquire. It’s an attitude towards life. It is having a certain way of thinking and living.

 True prosperity is a shift in one’s consciousness. Simply stated its cause and effect. Prosperity is the cause within one’s mind and money is the effect of the shift within ones consciousness. When we learn to think a certain way we automatically attract prosperity.

Now here’s the part people forget. You just can’t think about success you have to take action and work towards it. You have to make the first move. The Universe can only support you if you are moving towards a desire. When you take the first step, then the Universe shows up to support you, while you are moving towards your desire. It is important to have a clear intention on the outcome you want to receive, but be open within the context that it will show up. As it will show up in the least unexpected ways. Sometimes it is even disguised as a struggle or obstacle. Be flexible to how it will show up. Don’t be so cemented to an idea that you miss the opportunity.

Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. The goal is to keep your thoughts positive towards your desire. Use language such as, “I can do it!” instead of I can’t or I don’t know how or it won’t work. When you have thoughts like these turn them around and reframe them. Tell yourself that is a made up story and it no longer is true today. Then tell yourself what it is that you do want. Here an intention you can affirm: Success is my Divine right. If others can do it I can do it too.  I am succeeding by leaps and bounds. Today I claim my success. It’s a good idea to say your intention a couple times in a row to help your subconscious mind absorb it.

Another step you could do is to notice how you are feeling during the day.

Have you ever played with your energy, you know the way you show up in the world. You can appear as a happy, easy going person who smile, as you greet others or you can be a grumpy, angry person who frowns at others. The choice to how you show up in the world is yours.

It’s really about your attitude and how you feel. Then your body supports your thoughts and feeling and the Universe give you feedback. How others respond to you is the feedback you receive.

The key is to notice if you feel heavy or light, up or down, sad or mad. If you are feeing heavy, down, sad or mad then it’s time to clear your energy to feel lighter. You are carrying around stuck energy that is no longer serving you. It is time to let it go. Let go the anger, resentment, guilt, shame and sadness. The Hawaiian prayer would be a good one to do for yourself if you are feeling guilty about something. You could cry into a pillow or beat it to express all the emotions you shoved down, such as sadness, resentment, anger or shame. The exercise I use the most is to feel the feelings and breathe through it, saying to myself, “I release this feeling.”  It is important to let these stored emotions go, so that they don’t cause pain or disease in the body.

The last step is to notice when you take action towards your desire. Are your thoughts and feelings positive, full of excitement and happy or are they the opposite? Full of worry, fear and doubt. As you go about your day stop occasionally and just notice how you are feeling. If you don’t like it shift it. The key is to stay 51% in the state of joy, love and happiness. Keep practicing shifting your emotions to keep your vibrational state at a higher rate. I know you can do.

 If you would like to learn more about how I could help you breakthrough to prosperity of manifest abundance in your life  just email me at Jolen@jolenPhilbrook.com and put mindset in the subject line and I’ll drop you an answer.

 

3 Indicators To Tell If You Are Off Course

Have you ever felt like you are going to wrong direction? Maybe you might have felt like your spinning your wheels going nowhere fast. I’m sure you have, as I have. I’m pretty sure everybody has felt this way one time or another.

One day I had the experience of coming up to two stop signs where the street names were the same. It was a new place for me and I wasn’t sure where to go, so I went straight up the hill. I felt lost and started seeing bars on the windows, then I passed the railroad tracks. Fear settled in and I turned around and headed back the way I came. Once again I was back where I started at the stop sign. This time I went right and found my location. What I learned from that is that my inner guidance was telling me I was off course. If you feel you are off course here are 3 steps that may help you.

Here are 3 key indicators to tell if you are off course

Step 1: Resist letting go.

When you are resist letting go you are hanging on to what you knew, thinking it can work out. This appears in relationships, jobs, a style of being or thinking. You are not willing to let go of the situation. You are attached to it, stuck, holding on for dear life. Your identity is caught up in the situation and you are not willing to let it go for something better. You are afraid to change. The key to know here is that the more painful it becomes, is a sign that you are not in alignment. It’s time to let go and move on. Where in your life are you resisting change or letting go?

Step 2: You are not exercising your no muscle. 

Your no muscle has two parts. The first part is a knowing and the second part is the word no. When you have a knowing as in, I just know this is what I am meant to do. You are in alignment with your inner compass and life just seems to flow. It is easy, as you are going in the right direction.

The second no is your word no. Did you know that no is a complete sentence? The world is always giving you opportunities to say yes or no. If you are not feeling excited with tingles all over your body and feel alive, then you need to exercise your no muscle. By say no to some of the opportunities you are given. You are now opening yourself up for something that is bigger and better.  The key is to say no to those things do not bring you joy. The opportunity may seem logically and makes sense, but if you are not feeling it in your body, then the answer is a no.

Step 3: Failure to grow.

This is where you stop learning and trying new things. It’s like you are stuck in a rut. You go out to the same restaurant. You drive the same way every time. You do the same thing day in and day out with nothing new coming into your life.

The good news is once you are aware that you are off course it’s easy to get back on track. You could practice letting go of something such as an item in your house. You could practice telling someone no when you normally say yes to something you really don’t want to do it. You could take a class, drive a different way or even try a new restaurant.

With these three steps you can now tell when you are off course. Give them a try and practice noticing when resistance show up. Remember to exercise your no muscle and stretch yourself to learn something new.

Building A Consciousness Of Prosperity

Are you wishing some part of your life would be better or happier? You know that it is possible, because you see others who have it all. They have a nice home, a great paying job, they drive a new BMW and are in a loving relationship.

According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary prosper means: To favor; to render successful, to become strong and flourishing, marked by success or economic well-being. Prosper is defined as to do well or succeed in life. It implies easy access to all that is good and desirable to have a satisfying life.

How do you have a prosperous life?

Prosperity is simply a choice. What do I mean by that? Living prosperous is not a matter of what you actually have, but how you think. You can live a prosperous life by simply making a few changes in your own thinking. One of the easiest ways to do that is to appreciate what you already have.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “A man is what he thinks about all day long.”

Where’s your focus? What are you thinking about? Are you looking at what you don’t have, what you need or want? When you think this way you are coming from lack. You are focused on what you don’t have. When we get into a state of lack we can’t think of anything else. It’s at the fore front of our mind.

You may be wondering, why is this important?

It is important because, Divine substance is shaping itself around your thoughts and materializing it in your life. The thoughts you think are creating your life. The secret is to keep your mind off your troubles and keep them centered in your good. Focus on a desired outcome that you want.

You cannot build a new consciousness of prosperity until you have cleared a space for it. You do that by eliminating the old lack, limiting, poverty thoughts. It is about expanding your consciousness to accept more good into your life. One does that by releasing the thoughts that don’t serve you anymore.

When you focus on your good, your mind starts to tune out the limiting thoughts. You can do this by asking yourself, “Is this still true for me today?” If not, then reframe the thought, right then and there. Another thing you can do is to cancel the thought. Right after you are aware of the negative thought, immediately say the word, “Cancel.” You will want to say it three times in a row. The reason why is because it takes three times before your brain pays attention.

One action you can take today towards reframing your mindset is to start looking at nature. Think about a tree. You see a big, strong, brown trunk that branches off to many smaller branches that hold its leaves. A tree doesn’t have one leaf on it. There are hundreds. Take it a step further by thinking about prosperity, abundance and there is more than enough. There is an abundance of leaves on the tree. There is an abundance of branches.

Let’s take an apple tree for example. When an apple tree blooms there are tons of beautiful pink flowers that turn into big red, succulent apples. When the tree is so full of ripe, sweet, juicy apples the branches are bending over and touching the ground. Apples fall off in abundance. In Nature there are no limitations. It is all about abundant.  You were created like the apple tree. Therefore you too are abundant. Let’s be open to accepting our abundance. It is our natural state.

By thinking about abundance this way you are focusing on your good instead of lack. You have shifted your mind set from lack to more than enough and then you are proving it to yourself by find abundance in your world around you.

Poverty and prosperity are states of mind. Every effect is because of its cause. If there were no lacking, poverty thoughts there would be no poverty conditions. Thought equals condition. Cause equals effect. Inner concept equals outer effect. As a man thinketh, which is on the inside, so he is on the outside.

I leave you with this thought. Where is your focus? Is it on your desire or what you are lacking in your life? Before a desire can appear it must first be thought of and believed. Your power to tune in the good is your secret strategy to success. What will you focus on today?

3 Mistakes of Manifestation

What I have noticed is that some people make a few mistakes when it comes to manifesting their goals and desires. These few mistakes prevent them from achieving their dream and deepest desires.

Here are the 3 mistakes of manifestation

The biggest mistake I found is that most people don’t really know what they want.

If you ask your friend what they want usually they tell you what they don’t want. For example: a friend and I were going to go out to dinner. We were deciding what type of food we wanted to eat. My friend said, “I had Mexican for lunch, so I don’t want that.” I don’t like Italian, so that’s out. How about a steak house? No, we don’t have enough time as we have to be at our destination in one hour. If we can’t make up our mind what we want for dinner how are we going to decide what we want in life?   

You create your reality with your thoughts and feelings. If you keep flip, flopping and jump from one desire to another without asking yourself, “Why do I want it?” or what is the reason why it’s important? You will never receive it. The reason and why are important to know. They help motivate you towards your desire. The key here is to get clear on what it is that you really do want and why is it important to you.

The second mistake is setting the wrong type of goals.

We often set goals that we think will bring us the happiness that we are searching for. The truth is that nothing outside of yourself can bring you happiness. Sure a new car or a beautiful new home will bring you happiness, but after a while that happiness fades. Then, you’re left wondering why aren’t  I happy? Or where did my happiness go?

In order to set goal that connect to your happiness you have to find out why you want what you want. One way to do that is by ask yourself a few questions to get clear on why you want it.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself…

  • Why do I want this?
  • How will it make my life better?
  • Who is it going to benefit besides myself?

The answers to these questions will help you get clear about the goals you are setting. Often we want things that don’t really matter all that much and we waste a lot of time and energy concentrating on the wrong type of goal.

The key here is to figure out the reason why you want that goal. What will it bring you? And what will that do for you? And why is that important to you? Keep drilling down until you get to the main reason.

That is your big why. Your big why will be your driving force, as you work on your goal. When I did this exercise I found out that the reason why I want a successful business is to help others.

Then, I kept drilling down.  What will that give me? And what will that give me and what will that give me? I uncovered that having a successful business would give me freedom, happiness, expansion, spiritual growth, connections, growth and then I uncovered my driving force to help others is all about fulfilling my mission.

 Now that you know what you want and the main reason why you want it.  The next step is to visualize it.  You can visualize sitting on a chair or in your car waiting for the stop light to change colors. Any time during the day and also during a meditation. Visualization simply means that you image our desired outcome for your future. When you visualize be sure to add feelings of excitement as you imagine yourself being or doing your desire.

The third mistake is thinking negative thoughts

We all have negative thoughts floating around in our head. They have been put there from our early childhood years. The key today is not to continuing think negatively and believe them or dwell on the negative thoughts.

The reason why according to the Law of Manifestation is what you think about you bring about. In one way or another you manifest everything you think about. The key here is to monitor your thoughts. When you find yourself thinking negatively. Cancel it or say, “Stop.”  Then say something positive five times in a row to cancel out the negative thought.

When we take the time to monitor our thoughts we can uncover the beliefs that stop us from creating our desire.  

Now that we have uncovered the 3 biggest mistakes to Manifesting and how to turn them around to create our desires. I curious which step are you going to start with first.

Are you going to sit down and get clear on what it is that you want and why you want it or are you going to pay attention to your thoughts and language?

 

 

How To Redirect Your Mind and Your Thinking

What do you spend most of your time thinking about? Are your thoughts benefiting you and your body?  Or are they hurting you by rehashing the past, worrying about something you have no control over? 

Perhaps your thoughts are in the future dreaming of what your life could be like? Did you know that you think 60, 000 thoughts a day and most of those thoughts are negative.

Your brain thinks negative and it’s your job to retrain and redirect your thoughts, but we don’t always know what we are thinking about, because we are running on auto pilot.   Driving is a good example of when we go on auto pilot. Have you ever drive somewhere and asked yourself, “How did I get here?” You drove on auto pilot. Your subconscious mind took over and got you safely where you wanted to go.

One way to know what you are thinking is to pay attention to your feelings. Just notice if you feel happy or sad, relaxed or stressed. This is a hint to what you are thinking. Feelings follow thought.

This pattern of the brain is left over from a time long forgotten. The reptilian brain was our first brain. It is the oldest of all the brains components. It controls the body’s vital functions such as heart rate, breathing, body temperature and balance. Its job is to keep us safe.

The second brain is known as the emotional brain. The limbic brain emerged in the first mammals. This part of the brain is the seat of our value and judgments that we make. It records memories of our behaviors that produced our experiences.

Now you know that feelings follow thought. Here is a key to changing your feelings. If you don’t like what you are feeling then change your thoughts and your feelings will change.

Now I bet you are thinking sure that sounds easier said than done. How do you go about shifting your emotions? One way to do this to think of a happy event.

Remember when you went to a great concert or saw a funny movie that made you laugh. Do you have a special pet that you love? If you have a child, do they do silly things that make you smile?

The memory I use to make myself feel better is about my son. He was two years old and it was Christmas morning. I gave him a gift to open. At first he was not sure what to do with it, but once I showed him how to open the gift he went wild. Every time anyone received a gift he was right there helping them open their gift. He was so cute and the room was full of love and laughter.

The reason why this works is because your mind can only think of one thing at a time. In the beginning it will take awareness, but after you do the exercise a few times it becomes easier to shift your emotions to a happier state.   

Today, I invite you to practice paying attention to your feelings and notice if you are happy, sad, frustrated or irritated. If you are unhappy in anyway shift your feelings by thinking of something that has brought you joy in the past. Pretty soon your whole attitude will shift and you will be thinking and feeling happy. Leave a comment and let me know how it goes.

Feeling Bad About Yourself? Maybe It’s Not Guilt, But Shame.

A lot of people think when they feel bad about themselves its low self-esteem or maybe its guilt, but then again it could be shame and we just don’t know it. Do You Have Hidden Shame? What is it and why do we have it?

Shame is an intense painful feeling of believing that we are flawed and unworthy of love and belonging. What is surprising is that this is a universal feeling among most people, except those who can’t show empathy or connection. They don’t experience shame. Shame is not the same thing as self-esteem or guilt. Shame is I am bad. I’m a total loser. I’m stupid. This is where you focus on yourself.

Shame is a feeling where self-esteem is a thought. If I asked you what are your strengths? Who are you? What are your limitations? We would take a moment to think about ourselves and assess where we are in relation to the question. The difference is we feel shame and we think self-esteem.

Guilty is I did something bad. Oh, my gosh! Why did I do that? That was a really stupid thing to do. Guilt is you have done something that is not compatible with your values. This is where you focus on your behavior. Shame is a feeling. Self-esteem is a thought and guilt is a behavior.

Shame leaves us feeling unlovable. Being loved and feeling we belong is a core need. We are wired for love and connection. We need to feel we belong. When we don’t have love, connection or belonging we will suffer with an emotional hurt. This is where one could use money to feel better or buy the love and connection that they so deeply desire.

Most people have shame, but they don’t want to talk about it. They may know that they have shame, but they like to keep it hidden. The problem is that the more you keep it hidden, the more you have it. Shame can’t survive when it is spoken about. Shame only works when we think we are alone in the pain. The moment you reach out and talk about what you are experience you have just brought shame up to the surface to be released. This is one way to heal your money worries.

 

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Your Thoughts Are Creating Your Reality

There are many roads in life and different paths you may take to create your life. These roads are like different movies playing in your life. Is your life playing the way you want it to? Is your life full of joy and happiness or is it full of struggle and sorrow? Did you know your thoughts are creating or blocking you from having the life you want? Once you realize that, you can change your thoughts. Awareness is the first key.

Life Is A Series OF Movies

Think of your life like several movies playing all at once. There is the beautiful movie that inspires you and it is peaceful. When you are done watching the film you are empowered and you feel good about life. Another type of movie is the mediocre, ordinary, tolerable low budget “B” rated film. Then, there’s the comedy, where the charters are getting into and out of one jam after another as you laugh at all the errors they make in their life. Last, but not least there is the movie filled of tragedies. It is full of heavy heartache and every kind of drama or problem imaginable.

What type of movie is your life playing right now? Are you ready to change the film? Which movie do you want to play and experience? Your life, like the movie is chosen by the thoughts that you are thinking and you decide what you want to think.

Life is a series of adventures and it is your reaction to what’s going on around you that makes it easy or hard. One way to look at a challenging time is as a lesson or a learning experience. This lesson is here to stretch you and help you grow.

When you think of the challenging time as a lesson then the path is easier as you know you will get through it. You now have possibility thinking, instead of thinking I can’t do this. Now you are thinking about ways you can get through it or do it. What movie are you playing right now? What movie do you want to play in the future? The choice is yours. Practice focusing on a positive outcome and your movie will change.

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