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3 Steps for Showing Up Different

Watching, Listening and Contemplating

In this time of change how do you want to show up when it’s all over? Today’s thoughts lead to your emotions and your emotions lead to your behavior, which turn out to be your character. Do you like how you are showing up?  

Yes, these are challenging times that we are all going through right now. Did you know today’s thoughts are creating tomorrow’s emotions and behaviors, which are creating tomorrow’s new habits and character? We can’t show up in the old same way. It wasn’t working.

The last few days I’ve been watching, listening and contemplating. I’ve been watching my behavior and actions. I’ve noticed that there are some great things I really like and somethings that need to be changed.  I’ve been listening to my intuition and I’ve been contemplating my thoughts.

Watching:

Have you watched your behavior and actions during the last few weeks? If you haven’t I invite you to start today. Are there things you are doing that no longer serve you? Are you sitting around too much watching tv, eating too much sugar, not exercising or being a slob?   

Were you working so much that you never really knew your loved ones and now your home all day you are really getting to know them better? Are you enjoying bike rides, family game night or putting a puzzle together.

What behaviors do you like and what behavior would you like to change? Did you know the behaviors we see in others that we don’t like are what we don’t like about ourselves. They are just a mirror mirroring back to us our behaviors. If you change the ones you don’t like, then the behavior in the other person will change.

 

Listening:

Do you take time out of your day to quietly sit and listen? You might meditate or do yoga. You might journal or sit in the garden and watch the birds. It’s important to connect in every day and listen to the wisdom of your intuition.

Contemplating:

Have you ever paid attention to your thoughts? If not I invite you to observe your thoughts for a day and contemplate them. Just notice if you have thoughts that support you or do you beat yourself up?  Is there one area that you continually think about? It could be about your health or weight, your finances or your relationship.   

Why is this important?

If you stay in fear, grief and confusion you are teaching yourself a new behavior which will turn into your new character. We’ve been in this for about a month now. It takes a month to form a new habit. How are you showing up now compared to when all of this started? The way you are behaving right now, is this how you want your future to be?  I invite you to watch your behavior and change the ones you don’t like. Take time each day to pause and listen. Connect to nature and see the beauty of a tree that stands so tall and strong. Observe your thoughts and contemplate the ones that serve you and let go of the ones that don’t. Though this you can show up with a new character. One that is supportive, calm and happy. The choice is yours.

 

Are You Happy with Your Life? If Not Here’s A Way to Shift it

A belief is the acceptance by the mind that something is true or real. Often it is created by an emotional or traumatic event. When we have a core belief we have a sense of certainty around it, because we know it’s true for us.

Science has been focusing on the central nervous system, the immune system and their interrelationship. Science once thought that they brain sent information one way to respond to the body’s problem. Now it is clear that the central nervous system controls the body’s defense mechanisms.  Knowing this, we can assume that every thought, emotion, ideal or belief has a neurochemical consequence.  

Research has found a chemical link between our emotions, the stress in our lives and the immune system.

We all know it’s important to express our emotions, but we don’t always do it. We shove them down, gunny sack them, avoid them, distract ourselves from feeling. When strong emotions such as fear, anger, or rage are not expressed in a healthy way. Then the body’s natural response is to produce an excess of epinephrine.  Storing these stressful emotions produce a chemical breakdown, resulting in a weakening immune system and an increase for disease.

I had to learn this the hard way. When I had cancer I wanted to know why I got it. The doctors said, “Oh it’s just something that happens.” I disagreed. I felt there was a cause. What I learned was the anger and resentment I shoved down started eating away at my body causing a disease called cancer.

This is why it is so important to clean up old emotions that are no longer serving you. Not only is it helping you, but it cleans up your ancestor’s lineage and the future lineage. Another thing I came to learn and understand is that when you die your soul leaves the body, but so does your aura. This is where all your emotions and experiences are stored. If you belief in life after death. Those emotions and experiences follow you forward.

We can safely say that our thoughts, words, emotions and the physical body are all linked together. A belief system is strong enough to send a message to the body. In turn, the physical body reacts to the emotional belief system. The key is to change the messages that are sent to the body and to do that we have to change our beliefs and emotions.

The conscious mind can program the subconscious mind for new behavior and habits. This ability is built into us, but we forget that we have it.

Belief work means changing the pattern and the behavior. It gives us the ability to change the belief that goes beyond the subconscious and into the cells of the body. I practiced feeling my anger and breathing through it, which released the stored anger at the cellular level. It took patience and practice. Today I feel calm and peaceful. All the anger and resentment has left my body.

Now if you are having a really hard time with your mind chatter or limiting beliefs. I would love to help you unlock your prosperity from the inside. I’m known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. My specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck emotions so that you can attract more money, success, prosperity and happiness in your life.

Just email me at jolen@jolenphilbrook.com and put “mindset” in the subject line and we’ll schedule a time to chat. I would love to hear from you.  

 

5 Steps to Turn Worry Around

Worrying about money has been so ingrained in our culture today that it has literally become an epidemic. We are not only worrying over money, we talk about it with our friends. We toss and turn all night thinking about it. We spend our energy thinking about the worst case scenario and all possible negative outcomes of the situation. It’s top of mind. All this worrying has gotten you nowhere, but you can turn this all around by changing the way you think and change what you are doing.

Here are some steps to help you.  

  1. Change Your Focus

When I am super stressed and worrying about my finances I ask myself, “What am I focused on?” Usually I notice I’m really in a negative state of mind, so I ask myself, “Do I want more of this?” Usually the answer is no. See when you are focused on a negative emotion such as worry, you are creating more of what you don’t want into your life.  The key is to notice it and turn it around.

  1. Get a Mantra or Song

The reason you want a mantra or song is to help shift the energy. When you say your mantra or sing your song your energy shift and raises to a higher level. The more positive energy you tell yourself, the more you will believe and embody it. One way to do this is with a mantra, which is a positive sentence you repeat to yourself every time you begin to worry. Mine is “God is my source.” This reminds me that when I align to the energy of abundance it comes to me from many different streams of income. That I’m in control of my life and I’m choosing the experience I’m having in this moment. Do I want the experience to be pleasant full of trust and faith or stress and worry? To remind myself to say my mantra I painted a small palm tree on a sandy beach on a 3 x5 card and post it in my kitchen window.  You could write yours on a 3×5 card with color markers and put it somewhere you’ll see it often, such as your bathroom mirror, in your car or on your computer monitor.

Create a fun song to sing. When I drive I sing my song. You can make something up on the fly or think about your song and write it down so that you remember it. My song goes like this…Thank you for this day Spirit. Thank you for this day. This wonderful day, this wonderful day. Thank you for my clients Spirit. Thank you for my clients. My wonderful clients, my wonderful clients. Thank you Spirit for the opportunities to make money today.  The wonderful opportunities, the wonderful opportunities. Thank you for this day Spirit. Thank you for this day. This wonderful day, this wonderful day.

The key here is to feel good when you sing your song. You could sing it in the shower, in the car or at night when you’re getting ready for bed.  

  1. Go into Gratitude

Gratitude is a higher vibration and it’s harder to focus on the negatives in life, when one is being grateful. One way to do this is to write down five positive things that happened during your day. You’ll want to do this every evening before bed for at least two weeks. In the morning when you wake up write five things that you are grateful. This will help to shift your focus and If you create an awareness of what you’re thankful for. When you have an attitude of gratitude you will naturally be more positive and can better tackle any problem with easy.

  1. Know Where You Stand

Set aside some time weekly to check your bank account and discuss your finances with your partner. Then, you don’t have to worry the rest of the week, because you know where you stand and you have deal with things.

If you don’t already one now is a good time to create a budget. A budget can serve as a real eye-opener to what you are spending your money on and it will afford you greater control over your spending habits. It will also help with the fear-of-the-unknown by giving you a firm grasp on your financial situation rather than wondering.

I taught this system to my son who is living on his own going to college and he has taught the same method to his friends. For one month or two you want to track everything you spend. First, whenever you spend money get a receipt. Second, put all your receipts in a certain spot or bowl. Third, once a week enter all your receipts onto a spread sheet.  The categories are groceries, gas, restaurant, clothes and your big bills like PG&E, mortgage or rent, internet, tv, phone. If you have bills you pay every six months or yearly you will want to take that bill and divide it by the months so you’ll know how much to save for that bill, such as DMV, insurance, taxes. By doing this you now know exactly how much you need every month to pay your bills.

  1. Build An Emergency Fund

Did you know that most people do not have a thousand dollars in their savings account? This emergency fund is in case anything unexpected happens, like having to replace your water heater. One way you can start this emergency fund is by paying the minimum on your credit cards for a few months. Another way is to cut out the luxury items. The things you don’t really need, like the morning coffee at Starbuck or the restaurants at lunch. Instead you could make your own coffee and lunch. Make it a game to see how much you can save in a month.   

Inclusion, worrying is a bad habit that can be difficult to break. You may have learned to worry from your parents or to stay on top of your finances. It could be as simply as you didn’t know where all your money is goes. Now if you follow the steps above you’ll become a non-worrier with a happier attitude about life. 

You’ll be able to look at your life with ease, happiness and envision what it would be like to live without the worry. Get motivated and use the tips above to see what you can change.

Are you stressed, worried or full of anxiety about your finances?  I know how you feel. I’ve been there with my mind is racing and I can’t turn it off, waking up in panic attacks. That’s why I wrote 101 Affirmations for Prosperity ebook and you can get it here for FREE today! https://jolenphilbrook.com/101-affirmations

Discover The Link Between Your Thoughts And Your Life

Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or work, all you have to do is change your mind.

–Anonymous

Where your thoughts go, your energy follows and the result of those thoughts is what is appearing in your life. I believe thoughts lead us in life and your emotions are the fuel. Your thoughts are mapping the course for your life. It is like a captain of a ship. He cannot reach his destination without a chart and a compass.

The same is true with your thoughts. The style of thinking that you are thinking in this moment is pointing you in a certain direction. It could be a wonderful life that is full of gratitude with happy, loving positive thoughts or it could be a life of struggle, hardship and pain with thoughts full of anger, judgment, and resentment.  The choice is yours. What type of thoughts do you typically think? Is it happy or cranky? What type of life do you want to live?

Remember you can change your thoughts anytime you want. If you notice you are thinking negative thoughts pop into gratitude or appreciation. Find something in your life to be grateful for or start appreciating what you do have in your life. Just for today practice be grateful or appreciating and let me know how it goes.

How Do You Decide? There Are Infinite Possibilities

There are infinite possibilities in little beginnings, if you have the faith, you’ve got the power to move ahead in your life. If you look at any famous actor, they started at the bottom being a dishwasher or a waiter. They did odd acting jobs here and there until they got a break. But, they still weren’t famous yet. They had to act in a few low budget films or “B” rated films until, they got that big roll that made them famous. They went through the steps on how to be a good actor. Learning what worked and what didn’t work, all the while holding onto their dream of being famous. Having faith it will all work out.

There are many roads in life and different paths you may take to create your life. These roads are like different movies playing in your life. Is your life playing the way you want it to? Is your life full of joy and happiness or is it full of struggle and sorrow? Once you realize that your thoughts are creating or blocking you from having the life you want. You can change it.

Think of your life like several movies playing all at once. There is the beautiful movie that inspires you and it is peaceful. When you are done watching the film you are empowered and you feel good about life. Another type of movie is the mediocre, ordinary, tolerable low budget “B” rated film. Then, there’s the comedy, where the charters are getting into and out of one jam after another as you laugh at all the errors they make in their life. Last, but not least there is the movie filled of tragedies. It is full of heavy heartache and every kind of drama or problem imaginable.

What type of movie is your life playing right now? Are you ready to change the film? Which movie do you want to play and experience? Your life, like the movie is chosen by the thoughts that you are thinking and you decide what you want to think.

Let’s say you want to change your film and start a new project. What’s stopping you from starting your project? What’s the thing you keep putting off?  Is it fear of failure, not knowing how to do it or maybe you’re afraid of doing it wrong or making a mistake? These things keep us from starting our projects. But, once you start your project your half done, as the beginning sometimes is the hardest to do. Look around; there are opportunities all around you. All you have to do is open your eyes to them and decide which one you want to do. Make a plan and go for it.

Life is a series of adventures and it is your reaction to what’s going on around you that makes it easy or hard. If you look at everything as a lesson to help you grow and further your progress, then the path is easier, as you know you will get through it. You now have possibility thinking, instead of thinking I can’t do this, you are thinking about ways you can do it.

Look at every hard time you have as a stepping stone to better your life which prepares you for the next step. Within the hard time there is always something that we need to know or a challenge which makes us becomes a better person. When you are going through these hard times talk to yourself with encouragement, and supportive words not put downs. Be kind to yourself. Look at it as times of development, not hard times. Don’t give up on yourself, because you’ll stay the same and not learn or grow into the person you were meant to be. Be patient with yourself and realize that you need time to develop into the great person you were meant to be. Know that you have what it takes and that you can do it!

 

3 Indicators To Tell If You Are Off Course

Have you ever felt like you are going to wrong direction? Maybe you might have felt like your spinning your wheels going nowhere fast. I’m sure you have, as I have. I’m pretty sure everybody has felt this way one time or another.

One day I had the experience of coming up to two stop signs where the street names were the same. It was a new place for me and I wasn’t sure where to go, so I went straight up the hill. I felt lost and started seeing bars on the windows, then I passed the railroad tracks. Fear settled in and I turned around and headed back the way I came. Once again I was back where I started at the stop sign. This time I went right and found my location. What I learned from that is that my inner guidance was telling me I was off course. If you feel you are off course here are 3 steps that may help you.

Here are 3 key indicators to tell if you are off course

Step 1: Resist letting go.

When you are resist letting go you are hanging on to what you knew, thinking it can work out. This appears in relationships, jobs, a style of being or thinking. You are not willing to let go of the situation. You are attached to it, stuck, holding on for dear life. Your identity is caught up in the situation and you are not willing to let it go for something better. You are afraid to change. The key to know here is that the more painful it becomes, is a sign that you are not in alignment. It’s time to let go and move on. Where in your life are you resisting change or letting go?

Step 2: You are not exercising your no muscle. 

Your no muscle has two parts. The first part is a knowing and the second part is the word no. When you have a knowing as in, I just know this is what I am meant to do. You are in alignment with your inner compass and life just seems to flow. It is easy, as you are going in the right direction.

The second no is your word no. Did you know that no is a complete sentence? The world is always giving you opportunities to say yes or no. If you are not feeling excited with tingles all over your body and feel alive, then you need to exercise your no muscle. By say no to some of the opportunities you are given. You are now opening yourself up for something that is bigger and better.  The key is to say no to those things do not bring you joy. The opportunity may seem logically and makes sense, but if you are not feeling it in your body, then the answer is a no.

Step 3: Failure to grow.

This is where you stop learning and trying new things. It’s like you are stuck in a rut. You go out to the same restaurant. You drive the same way every time. You do the same thing day in and day out with nothing new coming into your life.

The good news is once you are aware that you are off course it’s easy to get back on track. You could practice letting go of something such as an item in your house. You could practice telling someone no when you normally say yes to something you really don’t want to do it. You could take a class, drive a different way or even try a new restaurant.

With these three steps you can now tell when you are off course. Give them a try and practice noticing when resistance show up. Remember to exercise your no muscle and stretch yourself to learn something new.

Building A Consciousness Of Prosperity

Are you wishing some part of your life would be better or happier? You know that it is possible, because you see others who have it all. They have a nice home, a great paying job, they drive a new BMW and are in a loving relationship.

According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary prosper means: To favor; to render successful, to become strong and flourishing, marked by success or economic well-being. Prosper is defined as to do well or succeed in life. It implies easy access to all that is good and desirable to have a satisfying life.

How do you have a prosperous life?

Prosperity is simply a choice. What do I mean by that? Living prosperous is not a matter of what you actually have, but how you think. You can live a prosperous life by simply making a few changes in your own thinking. One of the easiest ways to do that is to appreciate what you already have.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “A man is what he thinks about all day long.”

Where’s your focus? What are you thinking about? Are you looking at what you don’t have, what you need or want? When you think this way you are coming from lack. You are focused on what you don’t have. When we get into a state of lack we can’t think of anything else. It’s at the fore front of our mind.

You may be wondering, why is this important?

It is important because, Divine substance is shaping itself around your thoughts and materializing it in your life. The thoughts you think are creating your life. The secret is to keep your mind off your troubles and keep them centered in your good. Focus on a desired outcome that you want.

You cannot build a new consciousness of prosperity until you have cleared a space for it. You do that by eliminating the old lack, limiting, poverty thoughts. It is about expanding your consciousness to accept more good into your life. One does that by releasing the thoughts that don’t serve you anymore.

When you focus on your good, your mind starts to tune out the limiting thoughts. You can do this by asking yourself, “Is this still true for me today?” If not, then reframe the thought, right then and there. Another thing you can do is to cancel the thought. Right after you are aware of the negative thought, immediately say the word, “Cancel.” You will want to say it three times in a row. The reason why is because it takes three times before your brain pays attention.

One action you can take today towards reframing your mindset is to start looking at nature. Think about a tree. You see a big, strong, brown trunk that branches off to many smaller branches that hold its leaves. A tree doesn’t have one leaf on it. There are hundreds. Take it a step further by thinking about prosperity, abundance and there is more than enough. There is an abundance of leaves on the tree. There is an abundance of branches.

Let’s take an apple tree for example. When an apple tree blooms there are tons of beautiful pink flowers that turn into big red, succulent apples. When the tree is so full of ripe, sweet, juicy apples the branches are bending over and touching the ground. Apples fall off in abundance. In Nature there are no limitations. It is all about abundant.  You were created like the apple tree. Therefore you too are abundant. Let’s be open to accepting our abundance. It is our natural state.

By thinking about abundance this way you are focusing on your good instead of lack. You have shifted your mind set from lack to more than enough and then you are proving it to yourself by find abundance in your world around you.

Poverty and prosperity are states of mind. Every effect is because of its cause. If there were no lacking, poverty thoughts there would be no poverty conditions. Thought equals condition. Cause equals effect. Inner concept equals outer effect. As a man thinketh, which is on the inside, so he is on the outside.

I leave you with this thought. Where is your focus? Is it on your desire or what you are lacking in your life? Before a desire can appear it must first be thought of and believed. Your power to tune in the good is your secret strategy to success. What will you focus on today?

In Chaotic Times, Change Is Calling You

  In Chaotic Times, Change Is Calling You

Life at times is chaotic, full of doubts and feelings of confusion. In this chaotic times, life challenges you to change. Usually it is time for an internal shift in the way we think that creates an external change that is seen in your life. When you are going through this transformation you feel as if you are being bounced between two worlds of confusion and clarity, success and failure, pain and pleasure. If you relax into the change you will be guide towards the easy path, but if you resist the change you will grow through difficulties and challenges instead of ease.

Change is happening all the time, but sometimes we are not aware of it. The reason why is because we do it every day.

The sun comes up, we wake up for a new day. We go about our day doing the same things, shower, eat and go to work. The sun goes down, we wind down to close out that day and rest during the night when the moon is up. It seems on the outside we are doing the same thing, but our thoughts or feeling are different each and every day. If we stop to think or feel what we are telling ourselves our day will change by our attitude.

The seasons change and transform every three months, so that the plants can rest, grow in spring, bloom in summer, let go of their leaves and dead flowers in the fall and rest again in winter. They don’t fight the change. The just do it, because it is their path. It is their job to change. In the middle of winter there are huge storms and high winds. The tall pine trees bend and flow with the strong winds. They are flexible. We could learn a lot from watching the trees in a storm.

When we go through a major change, a transformation in our life, our whole world changes. We become a different person, as our outer world changes. We can go through this change with ease or dragging our feet. In the beginning of change I think most people drag their feet, procrastinate and fight it, because no one likes major change. I know I do. Change disrupts our life. We have to think and feel in a new way. Something has to change in our outer life, a new job, divorce, death, birth or moving. With this new outer change the inner self is being stretched to grow and evolve.

One way to look at this expansion is with a new mindset. One could say, “I’m open to being stretched so that I can grow into a new being.” Or you could say, “All my experiences happen for my best and highest good.” It will help you go through the change a lot easier. Remember the pine tree bends and is flexible in the strong wind. Why not be like a pine tree and bend to the change and be flexible in the middle of the transformation. You will go through it a lot easier.

Now if you are having a really hard time with your productivity, a negative mindset or limiting beliefs. I would love to help you by rewiring your mind to money, wealth and abundance. I’m known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. My specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck emotions so that you can attract more money, success, prosperity and happiness in your life. Just email me at jolen@jolenphilbrook.com and put “mindset” in the subject line.   I would love to hear from you, bye

 

 

 

Feeling Bad About Yourself? Maybe It’s Not Guilt, But Shame.

A lot of people think when they feel bad about themselves its low self-esteem or maybe its guilt, but then again it could be shame and we just don’t know it. Do You Have Hidden Shame? What is it and why do we have it?

Shame is an intense painful feeling of believing that we are flawed and unworthy of love and belonging. What is surprising is that this is a universal feeling among most people, except those who can’t show empathy or connection. They don’t experience shame. Shame is not the same thing as self-esteem or guilt. Shame is I am bad. I’m a total loser. I’m stupid. This is where you focus on yourself.

Shame is a feeling where self-esteem is a thought. If I asked you what are your strengths? Who are you? What are your limitations? We would take a moment to think about ourselves and assess where we are in relation to the question. The difference is we feel shame and we think self-esteem.

Guilty is I did something bad. Oh, my gosh! Why did I do that? That was a really stupid thing to do. Guilt is you have done something that is not compatible with your values. This is where you focus on your behavior. Shame is a feeling. Self-esteem is a thought and guilt is a behavior.

Shame leaves us feeling unlovable. Being loved and feeling we belong is a core need. We are wired for love and connection. We need to feel we belong. When we don’t have love, connection or belonging we will suffer with an emotional hurt. This is where one could use money to feel better or buy the love and connection that they so deeply desire.

Most people have shame, but they don’t want to talk about it. They may know that they have shame, but they like to keep it hidden. The problem is that the more you keep it hidden, the more you have it. Shame can’t survive when it is spoken about. Shame only works when we think we are alone in the pain. The moment you reach out and talk about what you are experience you have just brought shame up to the surface to be released. This is one way to heal your money worries.

 

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