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Waiting For Things To Be Just Right

Do you have a message within you that you keep working on trying to get it perfect before you get it out to the world? Are you full of great ideas and jump from one project to another never finishing anything? Either way there is something that is showing up keeping you from your vision.

There may be a voice in your head that is causing this problem and you may not even be aware of it. Do you ever think to yourself, “This isn’t going to turn out?” “No one will want to buy this”. “I tried this before and it didn’t work.” You might have different thoughts that swirl around in your head. Why are you listening to the fears?

People who are successful have learned how to understand the thoughts in their head and move past them. They don’t let themselves stop with procrastination, confusion worry or doubt.  They talk back to those thoughts and take fast action, meaning they get it done. If you are the type of person who is waiting for it to be perfect, then today let it be good enough, it is good enough to make the first pass.  You have to step out of your comfort zone and stop procrastinating. Decide today and put it out there. Then you can tweak it later.

If, you are the type of person who starts a project and never finishes this tip will help you.  Just for today work on one project to see how far you can get on it. If you are stuck, find away to get help, but keep moving.  Tomorrow look at the project and decide if you are going to finish it or not. It is about learning to discipline yourself to finishing it. It’s about building a new muscle.  I know you can do it.

3 Indicators To Tell If You Are Off Course

Have you ever felt like you are going to wrong direction? Maybe you might have felt like your spinning your wheels going nowhere fast. I’m sure you have, as I have. I’m pretty sure everybody has felt this way one time or another.

One day I had the experience of coming up to two stop signs where the street names were the same. It was a new place for me and I wasn’t sure where to go, so I went straight up the hill. I felt lost and started seeing bars on the windows, then I passed the railroad tracks. Fear settled in and I turned around and headed back the way I came. Once again I was back where I started at the stop sign. This time I went right and found my location. What I learned from that is that my inner guidance was telling me I was off course. If you feel you are off course here are 3 steps that may help you.

Here are 3 key indicators to tell if you are off course

Step 1: Resist letting go.

When you are resist letting go you are hanging on to what you knew, thinking it can work out. This appears in relationships, jobs, a style of being or thinking. You are not willing to let go of the situation. You are attached to it, stuck, holding on for dear life. Your identity is caught up in the situation and you are not willing to let it go for something better. You are afraid to change. The key to know here is that the more painful it becomes, is a sign that you are not in alignment. It’s time to let go and move on. Where in your life are you resisting change or letting go?

Step 2: You are not exercising your no muscle. 

Your no muscle has two parts. The first part is a knowing and the second part is the word no. When you have a knowing as in, I just know this is what I am meant to do. You are in alignment with your inner compass and life just seems to flow. It is easy, as you are going in the right direction.

The second no is your word no. Did you know that no is a complete sentence? The world is always giving you opportunities to say yes or no. If you are not feeling excited with tingles all over your body and feel alive, then you need to exercise your no muscle. By say no to some of the opportunities you are given. You are now opening yourself up for something that is bigger and better.  The key is to say no to those things do not bring you joy. The opportunity may seem logically and makes sense, but if you are not feeling it in your body, then the answer is a no.

Step 3: Failure to grow.

This is where you stop learning and trying new things. It’s like you are stuck in a rut. You go out to the same restaurant. You drive the same way every time. You do the same thing day in and day out with nothing new coming into your life.

The good news is once you are aware that you are off course it’s easy to get back on track. You could practice letting go of something such as an item in your house. You could practice telling someone no when you normally say yes to something you really don’t want to do it. You could take a class, drive a different way or even try a new restaurant.

With these three steps you can now tell when you are off course. Give them a try and practice noticing when resistance show up. Remember to exercise your no muscle and stretch yourself to learn something new.

Building A Consciousness Of Prosperity

Are you wishing some part of your life would be better or happier? You know that it is possible, because you see others who have it all. They have a nice home, a great paying job, they drive a new BMW and are in a loving relationship.

According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary prosper means: To favor; to render successful, to become strong and flourishing, marked by success or economic well-being. Prosper is defined as to do well or succeed in life. It implies easy access to all that is good and desirable to have a satisfying life.

How do you have a prosperous life?

Prosperity is simply a choice. What do I mean by that? Living prosperous is not a matter of what you actually have, but how you think. You can live a prosperous life by simply making a few changes in your own thinking. One of the easiest ways to do that is to appreciate what you already have.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “A man is what he thinks about all day long.”

Where’s your focus? What are you thinking about? Are you looking at what you don’t have, what you need or want? When you think this way you are coming from lack. You are focused on what you don’t have. When we get into a state of lack we can’t think of anything else. It’s at the fore front of our mind.

You may be wondering, why is this important?

It is important because, Divine substance is shaping itself around your thoughts and materializing it in your life. The thoughts you think are creating your life. The secret is to keep your mind off your troubles and keep them centered in your good. Focus on a desired outcome that you want.

You cannot build a new consciousness of prosperity until you have cleared a space for it. You do that by eliminating the old lack, limiting, poverty thoughts. It is about expanding your consciousness to accept more good into your life. One does that by releasing the thoughts that don’t serve you anymore.

When you focus on your good, your mind starts to tune out the limiting thoughts. You can do this by asking yourself, “Is this still true for me today?” If not, then reframe the thought, right then and there. Another thing you can do is to cancel the thought. Right after you are aware of the negative thought, immediately say the word, “Cancel.” You will want to say it three times in a row. The reason why is because it takes three times before your brain pays attention.

One action you can take today towards reframing your mindset is to start looking at nature. Think about a tree. You see a big, strong, brown trunk that branches off to many smaller branches that hold its leaves. A tree doesn’t have one leaf on it. There are hundreds. Take it a step further by thinking about prosperity, abundance and there is more than enough. There is an abundance of leaves on the tree. There is an abundance of branches.

Let’s take an apple tree for example. When an apple tree blooms there are tons of beautiful pink flowers that turn into big red, succulent apples. When the tree is so full of ripe, sweet, juicy apples the branches are bending over and touching the ground. Apples fall off in abundance. In Nature there are no limitations. It is all about abundant.  You were created like the apple tree. Therefore you too are abundant. Let’s be open to accepting our abundance. It is our natural state.

By thinking about abundance this way you are focusing on your good instead of lack. You have shifted your mind set from lack to more than enough and then you are proving it to yourself by find abundance in your world around you.

Poverty and prosperity are states of mind. Every effect is because of its cause. If there were no lacking, poverty thoughts there would be no poverty conditions. Thought equals condition. Cause equals effect. Inner concept equals outer effect. As a man thinketh, which is on the inside, so he is on the outside.

I leave you with this thought. Where is your focus? Is it on your desire or what you are lacking in your life? Before a desire can appear it must first be thought of and believed. Your power to tune in the good is your secret strategy to success. What will you focus on today?

Embrace Your Struggle

Do you have a desire for Success or happiness in your life? But, right now you find yourself struggling through your life with tons of obstacles.

You may even feel stuck and find yourself procrastinating. You feel like an island with no support, abandoned, it’s you against the world. Or maybe you feel like you are moving backwards instead of forward, there’s not momentum. It’s like you are wallowing in the mud. Have you ever felt like that? I know I have. As a matter of fact, that is how I’m feeling right now as I’m writing this.

I’ve been working on launching my podcast for the last eight months. I’ve ran into technical problems, then my website got into a war between two hosting companies when I went to move it from the old hosting company to the new one.  I couldn’t get my logo right or my cover art. The list goes on and on.

Then the mental and emotional struggles started. The old ‘not good enough’ button was pushed. My self-talk was really defeating. I said stuff like “Who’s going to listen to the podcast?” “You’re not any good.” “No one will like it.” “It’s not very good.”  “I don’t know what I’m doing, who am I kidding.”  “I don’t know what I’m talking about.” To top it I started having panic attacks in the morning when I woke up and no one knew what I was going through because I went into hiding.

I had to get control of my mind and emotions. I gave myself a good talking to. I’ve been through this before and came out the other end. I’m a fighter. I made it through cancer twice, custody suit with no income. I’ll be dam if I’ll let this podcast get the best of me. I asked myself an important question, “What did I do to get threw it before?” I made a decision, enough is enough. Then what did I do? I got my mind and emotions under control. Okay I can do that again. I went into my program I teach my clients and started using the tools I used before to pull myself out of depression, cancer, custody suit, court.

I started embracing my struggles, so that I could move through them and come out the other side stronger. I looked at my struggles as the steps to getting to the other side of my dream. It was like a test from the universe asking, “How bad do you want this?” Are you willing to go through your doubts and fears to accomplish your dreams? I ask you, “What do you want and are you willing to go through the struggle to reach your desire?” It’s really a choice. How you want to live? For me I realized the key is to embrace your problems as you grow. Give it a try and let me know how it goes. If you need help I’m here for you. Just send me an email jolen@jolenphilbrook.com

How To Redirect Your Mind And Your Thinking

What do you spend most of your time thinking about? Are your thoughts benefiting you and your body?  Or are they hurting you by rehashing the past, worrying about something you have no control over?  Perhaps your thoughts are in the future dreaming of what your life could be like?

Did you know that you think 60, 000 thoughts a day and most of those thoughts are negative. Your brain thinks negative and it’s your job to retrain and redirect your thoughts, but we don’t always know what we are thinking about, because we are running on auto pilot.   

One way to know what you are thinking is to pay attention to your feelings. Just notice if you feel happy or sad, relaxed or stressed. This is a hint to what you are thinking. Feelings follow thought. This pattern of the brain is left over from a time long forgotten. The reptilian brain was our first brain. It is the oldest of all the brains components. It controls the body’s vital functions such as heart rate, breathing, body temperature and balance. Its job is to keep us safe. The second brain is known as the emotional brain. The limbic brain emerged in the first mammals. This part of the brain is the seat of our value and judgments that we make. It records memories of our behaviors that produced our experiences.

Now you know about the brain and that feelings follow thought. Here is a key to changing your feelings. If you don’t like what you are feeling, then change your thoughts and your feelings will change. Now I bet you are thinking sure that sounds easier said than done. How do you go about shifting your emotions? One way to do this to think of a happy event. Remember when you went to a great concert or saw a funny movie that made you laugh. Do you have a special pet that you love? If you have a child do they do silly things that make you smile?

The memory I use to make myself feel better is about my son. He was two years old and it was Christmas morning. I gave him a gift to open. At first he was not sure what to do with it, but once I showed him how to open the gift he went wild. Every time anyone received a gift he was right there helping them open their gift. He was so cute and the room was full of love and laughter.

The reason why this works is because your mind can only think of one thing at a time. In the beginning it will take awareness, but after you do the exercise a few times it becomes easier to shift your emotions to a happier state.   

Just for today practice tapping into how you feel. To remember you might pick a time such as the top of the hour to check in or post a sticky note saying, “Feeling?” Let me know how it goes. Leave a reply below.  

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