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3 Mistakes of Manifestation

What I have noticed is that some people make a few mistakes when it comes to manifesting their goals and desires. These few mistakes prevent them from achieving their dream and deepest desires.

Here are the 3 mistakes of manifestation

The biggest mistake I found is that most people don’t really know what they want.

If you ask your friend what they want usually they tell you what they don’t want. For example: a friend and I were going to go out to dinner. We were deciding what type of food we wanted to eat. My friend said, “I had Mexican for lunch, so I don’t want that.” I don’t like Italian, so that’s out. How about a steak house? No, we don’t have enough time as we have to be at our destination in one hour. If we can’t make up our mind what we want for dinner how are we going to decide what we want in life?   

You create your reality with your thoughts and feelings. If you keep flip, flopping and jump from one desire to another without asking yourself, “Why do I want it?” or what is the reason why it’s important? You will never receive it. The reason and why are important to know. They help motivate you towards your desire. The key here is to get clear on what it is that you really do want and why is it important to you.

The second mistake is setting the wrong type of goals.

We often set goals that we think will bring us the happiness that we are searching for. The truth is that nothing outside of yourself can bring you happiness. Sure a new car or a beautiful new home will bring you happiness, but after a while that happiness fades. Then, you’re left wondering why aren’t  I happy? Or where did my happiness go?

In order to set goal that connect to your happiness you have to find out why you want what you want. One way to do that is by ask yourself a few questions to get clear on why you want it.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself…

  • Why do I want this?
  • How will it make my life better?
  • Who is it going to benefit besides myself?

The answers to these questions will help you get clear about the goals you are setting. Often we want things that don’t really matter all that much and we waste a lot of time and energy concentrating on the wrong type of goal.

The key here is to figure out the reason why you want that goal. What will it bring you? And what will that do for you? And why is that important to you? Keep drilling down until you get to the main reason.

That is your big why. Your big why will be your driving force, as you work on your goal. When I did this exercise I found out that the reason why I want a successful business is to help others.

Then, I kept drilling down.  What will that give me? And what will that give me and what will that give me? I uncovered that having a successful business would give me freedom, happiness, expansion, spiritual growth, connections, growth and then I uncovered my driving force to help others is all about fulfilling my mission.

 Now that you know what you want and the main reason why you want it.  The next step is to visualize it.  You can visualize sitting on a chair or in your car waiting for the stop light to change colors. Any time during the day and also during a meditation. Visualization simply means that you image our desired outcome for your future. When you visualize be sure to add feelings of excitement as you imagine yourself being or doing your desire.

The third mistake is thinking negative thoughts

We all have negative thoughts floating around in our head. They have been put there from our early childhood years. The key today is not to continuing think negatively and believe them or dwell on the negative thoughts.

The reason why according to the Law of Manifestation is what you think about you bring about. In one way or another you manifest everything you think about. The key here is to monitor your thoughts. When you find yourself thinking negatively. Cancel it or say, “Stop.”  Then say something positive five times in a row to cancel out the negative thought.

When we take the time to monitor our thoughts we can uncover the beliefs that stop us from creating our desire.  

Now that we have uncovered the 3 biggest mistakes to Manifesting and how to turn them around to create our desires. I curious which step are you going to start with first.

Are you going to sit down and get clear on what it is that you want and why you want it or are you going to pay attention to your thoughts and language?

 

 

In Chaotic Times, Change Is Calling You

  In Chaotic Times, Change Is Calling You

Life at times is chaotic, full of doubts and feelings of confusion. In this chaotic times, life challenges you to change. Usually it is time for an internal shift in the way we think that creates an external change that is seen in your life. When you are going through this transformation you feel as if you are being bounced between two worlds of confusion and clarity, success and failure, pain and pleasure. If you relax into the change you will be guide towards the easy path, but if you resist the change you will grow through difficulties and challenges instead of ease.

Change is happening all the time, but sometimes we are not aware of it. The reason why is because we do it every day.

The sun comes up, we wake up for a new day. We go about our day doing the same things, shower, eat and go to work. The sun goes down, we wind down to close out that day and rest during the night when the moon is up. It seems on the outside we are doing the same thing, but our thoughts or feeling are different each and every day. If we stop to think or feel what we are telling ourselves our day will change by our attitude.

The seasons change and transform every three months, so that the plants can rest, grow in spring, bloom in summer, let go of their leaves and dead flowers in the fall and rest again in winter. They don’t fight the change. The just do it, because it is their path. It is their job to change. In the middle of winter there are huge storms and high winds. The tall pine trees bend and flow with the strong winds. They are flexible. We could learn a lot from watching the trees in a storm.

When we go through a major change, a transformation in our life, our whole world changes. We become a different person, as our outer world changes. We can go through this change with ease or dragging our feet. In the beginning of change I think most people drag their feet, procrastinate and fight it, because no one likes major change. I know I do. Change disrupts our life. We have to think and feel in a new way. Something has to change in our outer life, a new job, divorce, death, birth or moving. With this new outer change the inner self is being stretched to grow and evolve.

One way to look at this expansion is with a new mindset. One could say, “I’m open to being stretched so that I can grow into a new being.” Or you could say, “All my experiences happen for my best and highest good.” It will help you go through the change a lot easier. Remember the pine tree bends and is flexible in the strong wind. Why not be like a pine tree and bend to the change and be flexible in the middle of the transformation. You will go through it a lot easier.

Now if you are having a really hard time with your productivity, a negative mindset or limiting beliefs. I would love to help you by rewiring your mind to money, wealth and abundance. I’m known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. My specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck emotions so that you can attract more money, success, prosperity and happiness in your life. Just email me at jolen@jolenphilbrook.com and put “mindset” in the subject line.   I would love to hear from you, bye

 

 

 

Get Something Done With This Hot Technique

Have you ever looked at your life and realized something needed to change? It’s like you’re at a standstill. You’re not moving forward. I looked at my life and I realized I wasn’t happy. It seemed that nothing was happening. See, I just officially broke up with the guy I was dating for two years and it’s been on again, off again for the last three month. The extra ten pounds are still hanging on since Christmas and now it’s April. My big goals weren’t getting done and the house is full of clutter. My life is a mess. It’s time for a change. Have you ever felt that way?

I decided to put myself on a 30 Day Productivity Challenge. The two areas of my life I wanted to change were my business and my eating habits. I spoke with a good friend who said she also needed to spice up her life and said she would do it with me.

 

Here’s the challenge I designed.

Wake up 5:30 am and meditate

7am check-in call.

Where I share what I’m eating that day and what type of exercise I’m going to do. Since I don’t exercise, my goal is to do 10 minutes of something. I’m deleting sugar, flour, dairy, alcohol, peanuts, beans and grains from my diet. Once a week is treat day and we are to share our successes.

7:15am ride my stationary bike or stretch

7:30am shower and breakfast

8am in the office- productive things

12:30 lunch

1pm in the office-productive things

3pm do unproductive things- errands, read, paint, housework, etc.

5pm walk

6pm dinner

7pm office- easy, no brain projects

8pm relax

9:30/10pm bed

To keep myself motivated I asked myself, “Why are you doing this?” I made a list of all the benefits. One list for my business and one list for my health. Sounds like a good plan doesn’t it.

Day 1: I woke up at 5:25am meditated and had my 7 am check-in call. I was in the office by 8:30am. Half hour late, not bad for the first day. I tracked my time all day and notice a simple errand took me 2 hours. A few Facebook post took an hour. My biggest observation was when I was procrastinating. I asked myself, “Why?” After a little talk with myself I buckled down and started working. I felt very successful about my day.

Day 2: I woke up at 6:45am feeling tired. 7am call we readjusted our program to wake up at 6am and sleep in on week-ends but still have 7 am call every day. I was in the office at 8am but by 9am I took a nap. I was too tired to work. Back in the office at 10:30 reminding myself why I chose to do this. What am I crazy? Why am I doing this to myself? I made it to lunch and after lunch I had to take another nap. By 4pm I was done for the day. Observation for the day: I was really tired and not feeling well. Took two naps and noticed it took longer to do things than I thought.

Day 7: Observation: I noticed I am going strong in the morning and get a lot of stuff done in the office. In the afternoon I’m tired and my energy is not as strong. I push myself to declutter the shelf in the bedroom or go through a pile of papers in the office. I’ve got to stop writing every down on little pieces of paper. Went out and bought a few notebooks to write in. One for ideas, one for projects, one for podcast, and one for blogs. Now it’s all contained and no more piles of paper. Yeah!

Day 10: Observation: I’m not getting up at 6am its more like 6:10-6:20am I’ve shorten my mediation time for sleep. I notice when I’m working on a project in the office and when it gets hard, I get distracted with something else like Facebook. I’m not putting in the productive hours to succeed. I notice that I’m stuck and now I’m able to get out of it faster.

Day 15: Observation: Wow! I’m half way through. I’ve definitely have been more productive. I just finished writing a sales page for my new program called Create Your Abundance Mindset. It’s a huge project and I just knocked a big hunk of it down. I’m so proud of myself. Funny thing is even the art work I’m painting for my son is ridged. He wants a painting like Piet Mondrian who paints in red, yellow, white and blue squares all trimmed in black.

The art world says its abstract, which I wonder about, because how can squares be abstract? Now I have to paint in straight lines. I don’t like straight lines. I like curves. I’m looking forward to the day I can go back to painting tall, breezy palm trees on the sandy beach of the beautiful blue ocean.

Well that’s it for now. I’ll have to keep you posted for the next fifteen day and how my 30 day challenge ended. If you find there is an area in your life that isn’t working I invite you to a 30 day challenge. Who know what you can accomplish. Just look at what I’ve done.

When is enough, enough?

When is enough, enough? How long do you want to struggle? How long do you want to suffer, stay stuck and unhappy? These were the questions, I asked myself.

See my life was bobbing along, nothing great was going on. As a matter of fact, I was gaining weight, just broke up with my boyfriend after two years. I was over working and not having any fun in life. It seemed like I was just getting by, making just enough money to pay the bills and some months I had to dip into my savings just to make ends meet. My biggest fear was that my saving would get used up and I’d run out of money. Have you ever had that thought or feeling?

When is enough, enough? How much longer do you want to live this way? I pondered these questions.

Then one night I had a dream. Now typically, I don’t remember my dreams, but this one I did. I think because it had a message at the end of it. Here’s the dream: My son and I were talking to a good looking man in the store. Next scene-my son and I were in the driver’s seat of the car, turned around smiling, waving and laughing to the man in the store. I noticed the car was rolling backwards down a curvy, windy road and picking up speed. I realized I had better drive.

The car was going around the corner to fast as I pump the breaks, nothing. I pumped the breaks and gain, still nothing. I down shifted to slow the car down.  The car spun around and now there was a fork in the road. The road ahead was long and smooth. The road to the right was up a mountain. I saw a car on that road, so I decided to take the mountain road.

All of a sudden I was traveling over huge grey granite boulders and the road disappears at the tip, top of the huge mountain. I’m hanging on to the steering wheel sitting with nothing but blue sky around me and grey granite boulders below. I scream out, “911, help!”

Next scene-there’s a room with three police 911 dispatcher’s, each one was sitting and looking at their computer screen. On the screen it looked like google maps with a red dot marking the location. They seem to be tracking the people and their location. One of the police says, “I’ve got a 911 cry for help.” The dispatcher’s chat among themselves and the next thing I know I’m being picked up and put on the smooth road and I drive off. End of dream.

Conclusion-it is my opinion from this dream that we are always being watched after. We have a choice to where we want to go in life. We can take the scary road full of rocks, boulders, struggle and hardship or we can take the easy, smooth road that is free sailing.  The choice is yours.

If you choose the hard road full of struggle. You will travel on this road until you call out for help. Saying, “I’ve had enough.” To me the 911 dispatcher were our guides watching over us. They can’t interfere with our lives until we ask for help. Usually we get into this mess only to realize that we can’t get out of it alone and that is when we turn to Spirit and ask for help. But what if we could ask for help along the way? Wouldn’t our lives be easier? Our life would be smoother and you would be living in the flow of ease and grace. It is all about choice and how you want to live your life. Today, I ask you, “When is enough, enough?” “How long do you want to struggle before you ask for help?”

How To Find Motivation When You Don’t Feel Motivated

Have you ever had one of those days where the alarm goes off and all you want to do is sleep for a few more hours? Your bed is toasty warm and you know how cold you’ll feel as you dart to turn on the heater. You are definitely not motivated to get up and get going.

Finally after hitting the snooze button a few times you crawl out of bed and grab your coffee. Then you get side track doing something mindless. You forget to do your morning routine of meditation, reading or exercising. Now you notice your day has gone sideways. Things are harder than normal, your feel out of sorts and can’t figure out why.

Did you know it the little decisions that we make that set the tone for our day? The decision you make first thing in the morning is pretty much how your day will play out. The good news is that it is changeable. 

Here are a few ways you can turn your day around, if it has gone sideways.

The first step would to become aware of how you are feeling and make that okay.  My making it okay to feel unmotivated you can move through the feeling easier, instead of fighting it all day long.

The second step would to do the next best thing for you. Think about what you want to accomplish? Our lives are about making small decisions to keep us moving in the right direction.

The third step would to take one action. The key here is to pick one thing to do and then do it. A lot of times we get distracted trying to do too many things. By taking action you are now moving in the right direction. If you feel like quitting and the project is half done tell yourself, “Just 5 more minutes, just 5 more minutes.” Use the 5 minutes a motivation to finish the project. Then celebrate when the project is done.  Do the Superman pose or athletic winner pose with arms over your head. Get the feeling of success! Yea! You did it!

Now you have yourself moving in the right direction. You’ll feel more energy, inspiration and motivation. This will help push you forward to the next thing you want to accomplish on the list. It’s like the domino affect where one small decision and action launches you in the right direction to build momentum.  It will help you save the day.

How To Redirect Your Mind And Your Thinking

What do you spend most of your time thinking about? Are your thoughts benefiting you and your body?  Or are they hurting you by rehashing the past, worrying about something you have no control over?  Perhaps your thoughts are in the future dreaming of what your life could be like?

Did you know that you think 60, 000 thoughts a day and most of those thoughts are negative. Your brain thinks negative and it’s your job to retrain and redirect your thoughts, but we don’t always know what we are thinking about, because we are running on auto pilot.   

One way to know what you are thinking is to pay attention to your feelings. Just notice if you feel happy or sad, relaxed or stressed. This is a hint to what you are thinking. Feelings follow thought. This pattern of the brain is left over from a time long forgotten. The reptilian brain was our first brain. It is the oldest of all the brains components. It controls the body’s vital functions such as heart rate, breathing, body temperature and balance. Its job is to keep us safe. The second brain is known as the emotional brain. The limbic brain emerged in the first mammals. This part of the brain is the seat of our value and judgments that we make. It records memories of our behaviors that produced our experiences.

Now you know about the brain and that feelings follow thought. Here is a key to changing your feelings. If you don’t like what you are feeling, then change your thoughts and your feelings will change. Now I bet you are thinking sure that sounds easier said than done. How do you go about shifting your emotions? One way to do this to think of a happy event. Remember when you went to a great concert or saw a funny movie that made you laugh. Do you have a special pet that you love? If you have a child do they do silly things that make you smile?

The memory I use to make myself feel better is about my son. He was two years old and it was Christmas morning. I gave him a gift to open. At first he was not sure what to do with it, but once I showed him how to open the gift he went wild. Every time anyone received a gift he was right there helping them open their gift. He was so cute and the room was full of love and laughter.

The reason why this works is because your mind can only think of one thing at a time. In the beginning it will take awareness, but after you do the exercise a few times it becomes easier to shift your emotions to a happier state.   

Just for today practice tapping into how you feel. To remember you might pick a time such as the top of the hour to check in or post a sticky note saying, “Feeling?” Let me know how it goes. Leave a reply below.  

Courage, Faith and Trust Have In Common?

Courage is an attitude. It is movement, doing something, some type of action towards your desire even through you may not feel like it. Courage is having faith that things will work out for you.

Faith is knowing that something or someone will come forth to help you in your time of need. Faith is trusting the Angels to assist you with your wish. Trust is knowing that you are being helped and allowing things to flow the way they do. Trust is taking your control off the outcome. How it turns out will be different than you expect. Sometimes it looks as if it is a challenge. 

Courage, faith and trust all work together. Without one the others can’t work. It like having a three legged stool and one of the legs are missing. The stool can’t stand on its own without falling over. It need the missing leg to be strong. It takes courage to do what you fear. It takes faith to believe it will work out for your best and highest good. It takes trust that you are being divinely guided.

Today as you go about your day. Tap into the energy of courage, which is ‘doing it’ in spite of how you feel. See how many times it touches your life. Then, see the faith that you have as you are using the energy of courage. Lastly trust it is all working out. There are things going on that are out of your control. Charge ahead with courage, have faith and trust the Angels are holding your hand along the way. I know that you can do!

 

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Your Thoughts Are Creating Your Reality

There are many roads in life and different paths you may take to create your life. These roads are like different movies playing in your life. Is your life playing the way you want it to? Is your life full of joy and happiness or is it full of struggle and sorrow? Did you know your thoughts are creating or blocking you from having the life you want? Once you realize that, you can change your thoughts. Awareness is the first key.

Life Is A Series OF Movies

Think of your life like several movies playing all at once. There is the beautiful movie that inspires you and it is peaceful. When you are done watching the film you are empowered and you feel good about life. Another type of movie is the mediocre, ordinary, tolerable low budget “B” rated film. Then, there’s the comedy, where the charters are getting into and out of one jam after another as you laugh at all the errors they make in their life. Last, but not least there is the movie filled of tragedies. It is full of heavy heartache and every kind of drama or problem imaginable.

What type of movie is your life playing right now? Are you ready to change the film? Which movie do you want to play and experience? Your life, like the movie is chosen by the thoughts that you are thinking and you decide what you want to think.

Life is a series of adventures and it is your reaction to what’s going on around you that makes it easy or hard. One way to look at a challenging time is as a lesson or a learning experience. This lesson is here to stretch you and help you grow.

When you think of the challenging time as a lesson then the path is easier as you know you will get through it. You now have possibility thinking, instead of thinking I can’t do this. Now you are thinking about ways you can get through it or do it. What movie are you playing right now? What movie do you want to play in the future? The choice is yours. Practice focusing on a positive outcome and your movie will change.

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