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Discover A Fun Way To Manifest

I love the idea of thinking of the Universe as a big Xerox machine. It just produces multiple copies of your thoughts. The sad part is the thoughts you think today are the same thoughts you will have tomorrow. The only way to change your life is to change your thoughts. This may sound simple but you have 60,000 thoughts running around in your head a day and maybe more. How do you change your thinking? For most of us we have a thought, which sparks the idea. Then we talk about it with excitement, which gives it added energy. Then we put our idea into action which produces a result.

But it’s not really the thought that needs to be changed. It’s the core belief or the sponsoring thought that started you thinking in a certain way. Isn’t that easier than trying to change all your thoughts?

The easiest way to change a core belief is to start feeling and acting the way you want. Let’s say your core belief is not enough money. You have to start training your brain to see that you do have enough.

In order to feel as though you have enough you have to flip your thoughts and feelings around to enough. It’s about showing your brain there is enough. A good affirmation is I have enough. Then prove it to yourself. Go to your cupboards and look at all the can and packaged food you have. Then say out loud, “I have enough.”  Go to your closet and look at all the clothes and shoes you have and say, “I have enough.”  Go to the bathroom and look at all your make-up and say, “I have enough.”  Look in your wallet and say, “I have enough.”  Here’s a secret, if your wallet is empty go to the bank and get a $100 dollar bill or at least a couple of $20’s. Keep this money in your wallet at all times. If you spend it replace it right away.

Play a game with the money. I have enough to buy this or that, but right now I’m choosing not to. I’m so glad I have enough money today to buy what I want. Open your wallet and tell yourself I have enough and you really do have enough at this moment in time. You are training your mind to know that you do have enough.  You have enough right now to do what you want when you want. You have enough to go to the movies. You have enough to out to lunch. You have enough to buy yourself a treat. But you are choosing differently.

Start noticing how you are feeling when you say, “I have enough.” Practice walking with confidence feeling successful and prosperous. I have a pair of shoes that when I put them on I feel strong and powerful. The days I wear those shoes I get more respect. What can you wear to feel prospers? Is there an outfit that you love, but never wear? Why not start wearing it today and feel good about yourself.

Now as you go about your day watch your language. Listen to yourself talk. Be on the alert for when you say, “I don’t have enough.” It could be not enough time, not enough money, not enough love, and not enough happiness. The list could go on and on. It’s time to break the cycle. Stop the thoughts or words right away and step into your successful self. Act as if you do have enough. How would you feel if you had enough money? How would you talk to yourself and how would you show up differently? These are a few questions to ponder.

Now if you are having a really hard time with your mind chatter or limiting beliefs. I would love to help you unlock your prosperity from the inside.

I’m known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. My specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck emotions so that you can attract more money, success, prosperity and happiness in your life.

Just email me at jolen@jolenphilbrook.com and put “mindset” in the subject line. I would love to hear from you. 

 

 

 

Waiting For Things To Be Just Right

Do you have a message within you that you keep working on trying to get it perfect before you get it out to the world? Are you full of great ideas and jump from one project to another never finishing anything? Either way there is something that is showing up keeping you from your vision.

There may be a voice in your head that is causing this problem and you may not even be aware of it. Do you ever think to yourself, “This isn’t going to turn out?” “No one will want to buy this”. “I tried this before and it didn’t work.” You might have different thoughts that swirl around in your head. Why are you listening to the fears?

People who are successful have learned how to understand the thoughts in their head and move past them. They don’t let themselves stop with procrastination, confusion worry or doubt.  They talk back to those thoughts and take fast action, meaning they get it done. If you are the type of person who is waiting for it to be perfect, then today let it be good enough, it is good enough to make the first pass.  You have to step out of your comfort zone and stop procrastinating. Decide today and put it out there. Then you can tweak it later.

If, you are the type of person who starts a project and never finishes this tip will help you.  Just for today work on one project to see how far you can get on it. If you are stuck, find away to get help, but keep moving.  Tomorrow look at the project and decide if you are going to finish it or not. It is about learning to discipline yourself to finishing it. It’s about building a new muscle.  I know you can do it.

Raise Your Vibration to Attract More Success

Do you have the desire to increase your income? Would you like to live a better life where you have more than enough money to do what you want when you want? There is something you can do to create your desire and raise your vibration.

Prosperity begins in the mind and it is impossible to hold a prosperous attitude when on is full of anxiety, worry or fear. It’s impossible to hold a prosperous attitude when one is worried, fretting over their bills and is full of doubt. We can’t attract wealth, when we have a lacking poverty consciousness. This lacking attitude drives away what we long for, which is prosperity, peace of mind and freedom.

When you raise your consciousness to a higher thought pattern and take action, magic happened. But question may arise, how do you do that?

To raise one’s vibration to the energy of success one needs to align their thoughts, feeling and actions to the energy of their desire. Success starts with the inner game. Your thoughts lead to your feelings which leads to your behavior and actions. Prosperity isn’t something that you acquire. It’s an attitude towards life. It is having a certain way of thinking and living.

 True prosperity is a shift in one’s consciousness. Simply stated its cause and effect. Prosperity is the cause within one’s mind and money is the effect of the shift within ones consciousness. When we learn to think a certain way we automatically attract prosperity.

Now here’s the part people forget. You just can’t think about success you have to take action and work towards it. You have to make the first move. The Universe can only support you if you are moving towards a desire. When you take the first step, then the Universe shows up to support you, while you are moving towards your desire. It is important to have a clear intention on the outcome you want to receive, but be open within the context that it will show up. As it will show up in the least unexpected ways. Sometimes it is even disguised as a struggle or obstacle. Be flexible to how it will show up. Don’t be so cemented to an idea that you miss the opportunity.

Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. The goal is to keep your thoughts positive towards your desire. Use language such as, “I can do it!” instead of I can’t or I don’t know how or it won’t work. When you have thoughts like these turn them around and reframe them. Tell yourself that is a made up story and it no longer is true today. Then tell yourself what it is that you do want. Here an intention you can affirm: Success is my Divine right. If others can do it I can do it too.  I am succeeding by leaps and bounds. Today I claim my success. It’s a good idea to say your intention a couple times in a row to help your subconscious mind absorb it.

Another step you could do is to notice how you are feeling during the day.

Have you ever played with your energy, you know the way you show up in the world. You can appear as a happy, easy going person who smile, as you greet others or you can be a grumpy, angry person who frowns at others. The choice to how you show up in the world is yours.

It’s really about your attitude and how you feel. Then your body supports your thoughts and feeling and the Universe give you feedback. How others respond to you is the feedback you receive.

The key is to notice if you feel heavy or light, up or down, sad or mad. If you are feeing heavy, down, sad or mad then it’s time to clear your energy to feel lighter. You are carrying around stuck energy that is no longer serving you. It is time to let it go. Let go the anger, resentment, guilt, shame and sadness. The Hawaiian prayer would be a good one to do for yourself if you are feeling guilty about something. You could cry into a pillow or beat it to express all the emotions you shoved down, such as sadness, resentment, anger or shame. The exercise I use the most is to feel the feelings and breathe through it, saying to myself, “I release this feeling.”  It is important to let these stored emotions go, so that they don’t cause pain or disease in the body.

The last step is to notice when you take action towards your desire. Are your thoughts and feelings positive, full of excitement and happy or are they the opposite? Full of worry, fear and doubt. As you go about your day stop occasionally and just notice how you are feeling. If you don’t like it shift it. The key is to stay 51% in the state of joy, love and happiness. Keep practicing shifting your emotions to keep your vibrational state at a higher rate. I know you can do.

 If you would like to learn more about how I could help you breakthrough to prosperity of manifest abundance in your life  just email me at Jolen@jolenPhilbrook.com and put mindset in the subject line and I’ll drop you an answer.

 

3 Indicators To Tell If You Are Off Course

Have you ever felt like you are going to wrong direction? Maybe you might have felt like your spinning your wheels going nowhere fast. I’m sure you have, as I have. I’m pretty sure everybody has felt this way one time or another.

One day I had the experience of coming up to two stop signs where the street names were the same. It was a new place for me and I wasn’t sure where to go, so I went straight up the hill. I felt lost and started seeing bars on the windows, then I passed the railroad tracks. Fear settled in and I turned around and headed back the way I came. Once again I was back where I started at the stop sign. This time I went right and found my location. What I learned from that is that my inner guidance was telling me I was off course. If you feel you are off course here are 3 steps that may help you.

Here are 3 key indicators to tell if you are off course

Step 1: Resist letting go.

When you are resist letting go you are hanging on to what you knew, thinking it can work out. This appears in relationships, jobs, a style of being or thinking. You are not willing to let go of the situation. You are attached to it, stuck, holding on for dear life. Your identity is caught up in the situation and you are not willing to let it go for something better. You are afraid to change. The key to know here is that the more painful it becomes, is a sign that you are not in alignment. It’s time to let go and move on. Where in your life are you resisting change or letting go?

Step 2: You are not exercising your no muscle. 

Your no muscle has two parts. The first part is a knowing and the second part is the word no. When you have a knowing as in, I just know this is what I am meant to do. You are in alignment with your inner compass and life just seems to flow. It is easy, as you are going in the right direction.

The second no is your word no. Did you know that no is a complete sentence? The world is always giving you opportunities to say yes or no. If you are not feeling excited with tingles all over your body and feel alive, then you need to exercise your no muscle. By say no to some of the opportunities you are given. You are now opening yourself up for something that is bigger and better.  The key is to say no to those things do not bring you joy. The opportunity may seem logically and makes sense, but if you are not feeling it in your body, then the answer is a no.

Step 3: Failure to grow.

This is where you stop learning and trying new things. It’s like you are stuck in a rut. You go out to the same restaurant. You drive the same way every time. You do the same thing day in and day out with nothing new coming into your life.

The good news is once you are aware that you are off course it’s easy to get back on track. You could practice letting go of something such as an item in your house. You could practice telling someone no when you normally say yes to something you really don’t want to do it. You could take a class, drive a different way or even try a new restaurant.

With these three steps you can now tell when you are off course. Give them a try and practice noticing when resistance show up. Remember to exercise your no muscle and stretch yourself to learn something new.

Discover 4 Obstacles Stopping Your Success

Are you letting your obstacles stop you from living the life we want?  Do you even know what your barriers are? Obstacles, blocks, and barriers fall into four categories. There’s Fear, Criticism, Resentment and Guilt. I’ll be explaining each of these, so you will be able to exam your own life to see what is stopping you from the life you desire.

Remember our experiences always reflect our inner beliefs and whatever you believe becomes your reality. If you want to know what your inner beliefs are, just take a look around at your life and environment. Look at your friends and family, are they happy, kind and supportive or do they always take your time, money and energy? What about where you work? Do you wake up happy to go to work or do you dread it.

Let’s go over the 4 Obstacles:

The first one is fear: What is fear anyhow?  F.E.A.R. = False   Expectations   Appearing    Real

It’s time to stop scaring yourself. How often do you terrorize yourself with your thoughts? You take your problem and blow it up, which make it worse, then you blow it up a little more. Now you worry about it, you lose sleep over it. You can’t get it out of your mind. It’s all you think about. The secret is, no one is doing a thing to you. It is your reaction and you’re thinking towards your problem. Why not make a list of your fears and turn them then around into the positive of what you want. Affirmations are a good way to turn your thinking around.

Did you know one idle thought doesn’t do a lot or make a lot of difference? You think 60,000 thoughts a day. But if you took that one idle thought and dwell on it with a strong emotion, then you have a lot of negative energy on that subject.

Let’s compare a thought to a drop of water. One drop doesn’t mean much, but if you keep adding to that drop of water, now you have a puddle on the counter that drips down to the floor where it turns into a pond. Now your house is flooded and the waters going out the door to make a lake. That lake turns into an ocean. Now you have an ocean with your accumulated thoughts, which are huge and there is a lot of power behind it. You can drown in the ocean of negativity or you can float on the ocean of life. It is all up to you.

What kind of puddle are you standing in? Or are you drowning in an ocean of negative thought? How are you thinking? What are you focused on? When will you be ready to change? Today is a good day don’t you think. We can change our experiences by changing our thinking.  

Sometimes an old thought comes back to us and rolls around in our mind. Well my friends, this is keeping you stuck. It is time to let it go and move forward. I found when this happens I just say, “Thanks for sharing, but the truth is…” and you fill in the blank with a positive statement such as, I am a wonderful person. I am successful. I am happy. You get the idea.

What you are doing is retraining your mind how to think. Did you know when you think a thought either positive or negative that it goes out and connects with others with the same thought pattern? Have you ever noticed a group of friends together and one group is laughing and having fun and the other group talks about illness and depressing stuff. Birds that flock together stay together. People that think a-like hang out together.

When we are learning something new it’s a good idea to be gentle with yourself. The last thing we want to do is beat ourselves up and go back to the old way. How do we finally know if we have really learned it? What you do is bring up the old situation again. It’s like were testing ourselves. We take a step forward and then backwards to see if we really have learned the new way. If you react the new way then you know for sure that you have gotten it. Now you can move on to something else.

The second one is criticism. Criticism keeps us stuck. Stop all criticism. Start first with yourself then move to other people.  Learn how to change the criticism to praise and approval. What you don’t like about yourself are patterns that you created to deal with a problem in your life.

Change the negative thought or criticism to praise. Say, “I like myself, I approve of myself, I am wonderful.” When you accept who you are, then you bring out the best in yourself. Procrastination is not loving yourself. I want you to know how wonderful you really are. A lot of people think I’ll be a better person if only… but what you’re really saying is that you’re not good enough. We want to overcome “not being good enough”. Be willing to Love and approve of yourself just the way you are and let all the negative stuff fall away.

The third one is guilt. People tell us negative things as a way to manipulate us. They lay guilt on us to control us and guilt is the easiest way to manipulate someone. Guilt never solves anything so don’t put guilt on others, just give out good intentions. What we give out is what we get back. Guilt always looks for punishment and punishment creates pain in yourself and others. 

If someone is laying guilt on you ask yourself, “What is it that they want?” Why are they doing this? Do you want to give it to them or not? You have a mind of your own and you’re an adult not a small child that needs to be controlled. What do you choose to believe is true for you now, today?

The last one is resentment. Resentment is unresolved anger. It is anger that got shoved down. Too many of us were raised where we weren’t allowed to be angry. Anger was not acceptable, so we swallowed down our anger. Swallowed down anger becomes resentment, which is now lodged down in the body. Resentment takes seed in the body and starts eating away at the body. We have to realize that we are the ones holding on to the resentment. No one else is involved. It’s like running an old movie in your mind over and over again. It is time to get over it and be free from it. We need to go beyond it. Resentment is only a thought and thoughts can be changed. Be willing to forgive yourself, the event and let go of the past. A good way to let go of resentment is to breath though it. Just feel the emotion and as you exhale and let it go. 

Now that we understand what our biggest obstacles, blocks and barriers are. There is one emotions that you can turn to and practice. That is love. Practice loving yourself. Praise yourself and what you do. Appreciate yourself, what you have and have do so far in life.

Love is one of the biggest healers there is. It stimulates your immune system and fights diseases. Dis-ease is a way we punish ourselves because we don’t love ourselves. People fight not loving themselves, but did you know when you were born, you loved yourself. You were perfect. It was society that taught you that it wasn’t ok to love yourself. Loving yourself is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. When you respect and appreciate yourself, it makes everything in your life flow. Today, why not tell yourself, “I am wonderful”. “I approve of myself”. “I’m ok the way I am”. Pick one and go for it or make up your own phase. Turn it into a chant and say it all day long, but most of all have fun.  

 

3 Mistakes of Manifestation

What I have noticed is that some people make a few mistakes when it comes to manifesting their goals and desires. These few mistakes prevent them from achieving their dream and deepest desires.

Here are the 3 mistakes of manifestation

The biggest mistake I found is that most people don’t really know what they want.

If you ask your friend what they want usually they tell you what they don’t want. For example: a friend and I were going to go out to dinner. We were deciding what type of food we wanted to eat. My friend said, “I had Mexican for lunch, so I don’t want that.” I don’t like Italian, so that’s out. How about a steak house? No, we don’t have enough time as we have to be at our destination in one hour. If we can’t make up our mind what we want for dinner how are we going to decide what we want in life?   

You create your reality with your thoughts and feelings. If you keep flip, flopping and jump from one desire to another without asking yourself, “Why do I want it?” or what is the reason why it’s important? You will never receive it. The reason and why are important to know. They help motivate you towards your desire. The key here is to get clear on what it is that you really do want and why is it important to you.

The second mistake is setting the wrong type of goals.

We often set goals that we think will bring us the happiness that we are searching for. The truth is that nothing outside of yourself can bring you happiness. Sure a new car or a beautiful new home will bring you happiness, but after a while that happiness fades. Then, you’re left wondering why aren’t  I happy? Or where did my happiness go?

In order to set goal that connect to your happiness you have to find out why you want what you want. One way to do that is by ask yourself a few questions to get clear on why you want it.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself…

  • Why do I want this?
  • How will it make my life better?
  • Who is it going to benefit besides myself?

The answers to these questions will help you get clear about the goals you are setting. Often we want things that don’t really matter all that much and we waste a lot of time and energy concentrating on the wrong type of goal.

The key here is to figure out the reason why you want that goal. What will it bring you? And what will that do for you? And why is that important to you? Keep drilling down until you get to the main reason.

That is your big why. Your big why will be your driving force, as you work on your goal. When I did this exercise I found out that the reason why I want a successful business is to help others.

Then, I kept drilling down.  What will that give me? And what will that give me and what will that give me? I uncovered that having a successful business would give me freedom, happiness, expansion, spiritual growth, connections, growth and then I uncovered my driving force to help others is all about fulfilling my mission.

 Now that you know what you want and the main reason why you want it.  The next step is to visualize it.  You can visualize sitting on a chair or in your car waiting for the stop light to change colors. Any time during the day and also during a meditation. Visualization simply means that you image our desired outcome for your future. When you visualize be sure to add feelings of excitement as you imagine yourself being or doing your desire.

The third mistake is thinking negative thoughts

We all have negative thoughts floating around in our head. They have been put there from our early childhood years. The key today is not to continuing think negatively and believe them or dwell on the negative thoughts.

The reason why according to the Law of Manifestation is what you think about you bring about. In one way or another you manifest everything you think about. The key here is to monitor your thoughts. When you find yourself thinking negatively. Cancel it or say, “Stop.”  Then say something positive five times in a row to cancel out the negative thought.

When we take the time to monitor our thoughts we can uncover the beliefs that stop us from creating our desire.  

Now that we have uncovered the 3 biggest mistakes to Manifesting and how to turn them around to create our desires. I curious which step are you going to start with first.

Are you going to sit down and get clear on what it is that you want and why you want it or are you going to pay attention to your thoughts and language?

 

 

In Chaotic Times, Change Is Calling You

  In Chaotic Times, Change Is Calling You

Life at times is chaotic, full of doubts and feelings of confusion. In this chaotic times, life challenges you to change. Usually it is time for an internal shift in the way we think that creates an external change that is seen in your life. When you are going through this transformation you feel as if you are being bounced between two worlds of confusion and clarity, success and failure, pain and pleasure. If you relax into the change you will be guide towards the easy path, but if you resist the change you will grow through difficulties and challenges instead of ease.

Change is happening all the time, but sometimes we are not aware of it. The reason why is because we do it every day.

The sun comes up, we wake up for a new day. We go about our day doing the same things, shower, eat and go to work. The sun goes down, we wind down to close out that day and rest during the night when the moon is up. It seems on the outside we are doing the same thing, but our thoughts or feeling are different each and every day. If we stop to think or feel what we are telling ourselves our day will change by our attitude.

The seasons change and transform every three months, so that the plants can rest, grow in spring, bloom in summer, let go of their leaves and dead flowers in the fall and rest again in winter. They don’t fight the change. The just do it, because it is their path. It is their job to change. In the middle of winter there are huge storms and high winds. The tall pine trees bend and flow with the strong winds. They are flexible. We could learn a lot from watching the trees in a storm.

When we go through a major change, a transformation in our life, our whole world changes. We become a different person, as our outer world changes. We can go through this change with ease or dragging our feet. In the beginning of change I think most people drag their feet, procrastinate and fight it, because no one likes major change. I know I do. Change disrupts our life. We have to think and feel in a new way. Something has to change in our outer life, a new job, divorce, death, birth or moving. With this new outer change the inner self is being stretched to grow and evolve.

One way to look at this expansion is with a new mindset. One could say, “I’m open to being stretched so that I can grow into a new being.” Or you could say, “All my experiences happen for my best and highest good.” It will help you go through the change a lot easier. Remember the pine tree bends and is flexible in the strong wind. Why not be like a pine tree and bend to the change and be flexible in the middle of the transformation. You will go through it a lot easier.

Now if you are having a really hard time with your productivity, a negative mindset or limiting beliefs. I would love to help you by rewiring your mind to money, wealth and abundance. I’m known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. My specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck emotions so that you can attract more money, success, prosperity and happiness in your life. Just email me at jolen@jolenphilbrook.com and put “mindset” in the subject line.   I would love to hear from you, bye

 

 

 

When is enough, enough?

When is enough, enough? How long do you want to struggle? How long do you want to suffer, stay stuck and unhappy? These were the questions, I asked myself.

See my life was bobbing along, nothing great was going on. As a matter of fact, I was gaining weight, just broke up with my boyfriend after two years. I was over working and not having any fun in life. It seemed like I was just getting by, making just enough money to pay the bills and some months I had to dip into my savings just to make ends meet. My biggest fear was that my saving would get used up and I’d run out of money. Have you ever had that thought or feeling?

When is enough, enough? How much longer do you want to live this way? I pondered these questions.

Then one night I had a dream. Now typically, I don’t remember my dreams, but this one I did. I think because it had a message at the end of it. Here’s the dream: My son and I were talking to a good looking man in the store. Next scene-my son and I were in the driver’s seat of the car, turned around smiling, waving and laughing to the man in the store. I noticed the car was rolling backwards down a curvy, windy road and picking up speed. I realized I had better drive.

The car was going around the corner to fast as I pump the breaks, nothing. I pumped the breaks and gain, still nothing. I down shifted to slow the car down.  The car spun around and now there was a fork in the road. The road ahead was long and smooth. The road to the right was up a mountain. I saw a car on that road, so I decided to take the mountain road.

All of a sudden I was traveling over huge grey granite boulders and the road disappears at the tip, top of the huge mountain. I’m hanging on to the steering wheel sitting with nothing but blue sky around me and grey granite boulders below. I scream out, “911, help!”

Next scene-there’s a room with three police 911 dispatcher’s, each one was sitting and looking at their computer screen. On the screen it looked like google maps with a red dot marking the location. They seem to be tracking the people and their location. One of the police says, “I’ve got a 911 cry for help.” The dispatcher’s chat among themselves and the next thing I know I’m being picked up and put on the smooth road and I drive off. End of dream.

Conclusion-it is my opinion from this dream that we are always being watched after. We have a choice to where we want to go in life. We can take the scary road full of rocks, boulders, struggle and hardship or we can take the easy, smooth road that is free sailing.  The choice is yours.

If you choose the hard road full of struggle. You will travel on this road until you call out for help. Saying, “I’ve had enough.” To me the 911 dispatcher were our guides watching over us. They can’t interfere with our lives until we ask for help. Usually we get into this mess only to realize that we can’t get out of it alone and that is when we turn to Spirit and ask for help. But what if we could ask for help along the way? Wouldn’t our lives be easier? Our life would be smoother and you would be living in the flow of ease and grace. It is all about choice and how you want to live your life. Today, I ask you, “When is enough, enough?” “How long do you want to struggle before you ask for help?”

Embrace Your Struggle

Do you have a desire for Success or happiness in your life? But, right now you find yourself struggling through your life with tons of obstacles.

You may even feel stuck and find yourself procrastinating. You feel like an island with no support, abandoned, it’s you against the world. Or maybe you feel like you are moving backwards instead of forward, there’s not momentum. It’s like you are wallowing in the mud. Have you ever felt like that? I know I have. As a matter of fact, that is how I’m feeling right now as I’m writing this.

I’ve been working on launching my podcast for the last eight months. I’ve ran into technical problems, then my website got into a war between two hosting companies when I went to move it from the old hosting company to the new one.  I couldn’t get my logo right or my cover art. The list goes on and on.

Then the mental and emotional struggles started. The old ‘not good enough’ button was pushed. My self-talk was really defeating. I said stuff like “Who’s going to listen to the podcast?” “You’re not any good.” “No one will like it.” “It’s not very good.”  “I don’t know what I’m doing, who am I kidding.”  “I don’t know what I’m talking about.” To top it I started having panic attacks in the morning when I woke up and no one knew what I was going through because I went into hiding.

I had to get control of my mind and emotions. I gave myself a good talking to. I’ve been through this before and came out the other end. I’m a fighter. I made it through cancer twice, custody suit with no income. I’ll be dam if I’ll let this podcast get the best of me. I asked myself an important question, “What did I do to get threw it before?” I made a decision, enough is enough. Then what did I do? I got my mind and emotions under control. Okay I can do that again. I went into my program I teach my clients and started using the tools I used before to pull myself out of depression, cancer, custody suit, court.

I started embracing my struggles, so that I could move through them and come out the other side stronger. I looked at my struggles as the steps to getting to the other side of my dream. It was like a test from the universe asking, “How bad do you want this?” Are you willing to go through your doubts and fears to accomplish your dreams? I ask you, “What do you want and are you willing to go through the struggle to reach your desire?” It’s really a choice. How you want to live? For me I realized the key is to embrace your problems as you grow. Give it a try and let me know how it goes. If you need help I’m here for you. Just send me an email jolen@jolenphilbrook.com

How To Redirect Your Mind And Your Thinking

What do you spend most of your time thinking about? Are your thoughts benefiting you and your body?  Or are they hurting you by rehashing the past, worrying about something you have no control over?  Perhaps your thoughts are in the future dreaming of what your life could be like?

Did you know that you think 60, 000 thoughts a day and most of those thoughts are negative. Your brain thinks negative and it’s your job to retrain and redirect your thoughts, but we don’t always know what we are thinking about, because we are running on auto pilot.   

One way to know what you are thinking is to pay attention to your feelings. Just notice if you feel happy or sad, relaxed or stressed. This is a hint to what you are thinking. Feelings follow thought. This pattern of the brain is left over from a time long forgotten. The reptilian brain was our first brain. It is the oldest of all the brains components. It controls the body’s vital functions such as heart rate, breathing, body temperature and balance. Its job is to keep us safe. The second brain is known as the emotional brain. The limbic brain emerged in the first mammals. This part of the brain is the seat of our value and judgments that we make. It records memories of our behaviors that produced our experiences.

Now you know about the brain and that feelings follow thought. Here is a key to changing your feelings. If you don’t like what you are feeling, then change your thoughts and your feelings will change. Now I bet you are thinking sure that sounds easier said than done. How do you go about shifting your emotions? One way to do this to think of a happy event. Remember when you went to a great concert or saw a funny movie that made you laugh. Do you have a special pet that you love? If you have a child do they do silly things that make you smile?

The memory I use to make myself feel better is about my son. He was two years old and it was Christmas morning. I gave him a gift to open. At first he was not sure what to do with it, but once I showed him how to open the gift he went wild. Every time anyone received a gift he was right there helping them open their gift. He was so cute and the room was full of love and laughter.

The reason why this works is because your mind can only think of one thing at a time. In the beginning it will take awareness, but after you do the exercise a few times it becomes easier to shift your emotions to a happier state.   

Just for today practice tapping into how you feel. To remember you might pick a time such as the top of the hour to check in or post a sticky note saying, “Feeling?” Let me know how it goes. Leave a reply below.  

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