To me this is a magical time of year, as I can start fresh. This time of year is about reflecting on what has been and what you want to accomplish in the next year. To freely listen from your heart and be open to what you will receive in the New Year. You never know what surprises the Universe has in store for you.
Winter is the perfect time of year to look back over the year and celebrate all of your accomplishment. Just before the New Year a friend and I get together and review our goals from the previous year. I am always amazed at what I accomplished. I pick one hairy goal that scares me, so I can stretch and grow into it. A few years back my hairy goal was to learn podcasting and look at me today. I’m going on my third year and I love it. What I enjoy the most when I interview a guest is that I get to learn new things or look at the topic with new insight.
Here are the steps my friend and I do every year. We set our big goals that we want to accomplish and one scary goal for the year. Then we set our First quarterly goals and from that we set our first monthly goal and from that we decide what our goals are for the week. I think why it works so well for us is that we check in with each other once a week to see what was accomplished that week.
Last year in the second quarter I was dating someone who I felt wasn’t cherishing and respecting me. He kept canceling or had to work or his daughter had some problem. So I wrote
in my relationship goal I was to be respected, cherished and honored. What was funny is that the ink disappeared only from that goal and so did he. I think it was a sign for the Universe that the relationship was disappearing. My friend teased me that I wrote my goal in disappearing ink. We had a good laugh over it.
The question to ask yourself is what is one thing you want to accomplish is each area of your life. The categories we use are business, health, fun and sometimes relationship. We have been doing this for over six years now. In the beginning we picked a lot more categories, but have learned over the years less is best. Especially if we want to accomplish our goals. If you are good in one area my advice is not to set a goal around it. For me I’m strong in spirituality. I mediate every morning and do my inner work, therefore I don’t need to set a goal around this, because I already do it. But if you are weak in this area set a simple goal. For relationship I choose to be kind to myself, as in this moment I’m not in a relationship. When I am kind to myself I am happier and that reflects to others. I practice smiling to others and talking to people I meet. When I hear things like, you brightened my day or I’m so glad you came in today, you made my day. Then I know its working.
Making a goal is very important in trying to create what you want in your life. Just thinking about the goal or the outcome is not enough. Many experts such as Tony Robbins, Terry Cole-Whittaker, Brian Tracey, Deepak Chopra, and many others have written about the power of writing down our goals.
Charles Schwab did this exercise to build his multi-million-dollar business. Every night before he
would go to bed, he would write out the 6 most important things to do to move towards his goal. He would do those 6 things first. If he did not complete all 6, he would then take the remaining actions and put them to the next day. So if one day he only accomplished 4, he would then take the remaining 2 and make that a priority for the next day.
Here are four important questions to ask yourself: What are the steps that I need to take to achieve my goal?
Why do I want to achieve this goal?
What needs to be released?
What do I need to let go of that is no longer working for me?
The first question: “What are the steps that I need to take to achieve my goal?” These steps will turn into your action plan. For example: your goal is to save $1,200 dollars this year. Your current reality is that you have no savings. Your goal then would to save $100 a month and at the end of the year you’ll have saved the $1,200 dollars.
Taking the action is the most important part of the goal. You need to move toward the goal and get started. The steps are what it will take to succeed. Without the steps you have a goal that most likely will not be achieved. What will motivate you to take the steps is your “Why”
Which leads us to the second question, “Why do I want to achieve this goal?” Your “Why” will fuel your determination to complete it. Another way of thinking of your “Why” is, what feelings do you need to have to achieve your goals? The feeling or the why needs to be your main focus. This will move you forward into taking the steps to achieving your goals.
For example: Why: I’ll feel good that I now have a savings. Once you become really clear about what is going to keep you determined, and why you are motivated to move towards the goal, you need to ask the third question. “What do I need to release?” Think of the spectrum of where the goal is and where you are currently, as a road. Put in even more simple terms, point A to point B. What is in the road that will disguise itself as roadblocks?
This could be other people, it could be your own limiting thoughts, it could be fears, or it could be your own beliefs. Maybe you have a belief that you couldn’t possibly ever be able to save a $100 dollars a month or maybe you feel you don’t deserve it. Now’s the time to get really clear about what has stopped you in the past, and what has potential from stopping you now. If you become conscious of the roadblocks, and have clarity that they are there, you can release or avoid them. Example of a roadblocks: Going out to lunch or dinner when you could make a lunch or cook. Buying stuff that you don’t really need.
6 Goal Setting Steps
The following guidelines will help you to set effective goals:
- Be clear: Set a goal and set a date, so that you can measure your achievement. If you do this then, you’ll know exactly when you have reached the goal and have satisfaction from having achieved it. This really helps me as I know every Monday I have to be accountable for what I said I’ll do. There are many Sunday nights I’m finishing my ‘to do’ list.
- Set priorities: When you have several goals, give each a priority. This helps you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by too many goals and helps to direct your attention to the most important ones.
- Write goals down: This makes them real and gives them more force.
- Keep goals small: Keep the low-level goals you are working towards small and achievable. If a goal is too large, then it can seem that you are not making progress towards it.
- Set performance goals, not outcome goals: You should set goals that you have as much control as possible. If you base your goals on personal performance, then you can keep control over the achievement of your goals and draw satisfaction from them.
- Set realistic goals: It is important to set goals that you can achieve. You may set goals that are too high, because you may not understand how much skill you need to develop to achieve a particular level of performance. I learned this the hard way by doing an online program. I had to learn click funnels in order to put the program online.
When you have achieved a goal, take the time to enjoy the satisfaction of having done so. Stop and observe the progress you have made towards your goals. If the goal was a significant one, reward yourself appropriately. All of this helps you build the self-confidence you deserve.
What is the one thing you’d like to accomplish this year? Follow the steps we just went over and you to will be successful in achieving your goals.
Do you have a message within you that you keep working on trying to get it perfect before you get it out to the world? Are you full of great ideas and jump from one project to another never finishing anything? Either way there is something that is showing up keeping you from your vision.
move past them. They don’t let themselves stop with procrastination, confusion worry or doubt. They talk back to those thoughts and take fast action, meaning they get it done. If you are the type of person who is waiting for it to be perfect, then today let it be good enough, it is good enough to make the first pass. You have to step out of your comfort zone and stop procrastinating. Decide today and put it out there. Then you can tweak it later.
Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or work, all you have to do is change your mind.
typically think? Is it happy or cranky? What type of life do you want to live?
Do you have the desire to increase your income? Would you like to live a better life where you have more than enough money to do what you want when you want? There is something you can do to create your desire and raise your vibration.
It’s really about your attitude and how you feel. Then your body supports your thoughts and feeling and the Universe give you feedback. How others respond to you is the feedback you receive.
The other day I was in the grocery store. After spending about an hour of shopping I header to the checkout station. As I stood in the checkout line I observed a man franticly moving through the store. He seemed to be stressed or in a hurry and looked a little out of sorts, as he grabbed a soda from the cold case. Then he got in line behind me. My cart was full and he only had a soda and a bag of chips, so I asked him if he would like to go ahead of me. He was happy with that idea and moved in front of me.
beautiful, round, golden halo above my head. The man must have subconsciously seen my full halo glowing, because he did a double take. He kept starting at the top of my head. It was if he couldn’t take his eyes off the top of my head. I noticed the more he looked at the halo the lighter his energy got. Where his energy was once an ash color his energy was now becoming brighter. Then he started to relax and he even smiled, as a peacefulness settled over him.
There are infinite possibilities in little beginnings, if you have the faith, you’ve got the power to move ahead in your life. If you look at any famous actor, they started at the bottom being a dishwasher or a waiter. They did odd acting jobs here and there until they got a break. But, they still weren’t famous yet. They had to act in a few low budget films or “B” rated films until, they got that big roll that made them famous. They went through the steps on how to be a good actor. Learning what worked and what didn’t work, all the while holding onto their dream of being famous. Having faith it will all work out.
Look at every hard time you have as a stepping stone to better your life which prepares you for the next step. Within the hard time there is always something that we need to know or a challenge which makes us becomes a better person. When you are going through these hard times talk to yourself with encouragement, and supportive words not put downs. Be kind to yourself. Look at it as times of development, not hard times. Don’t give up on yourself, because you’ll stay the same and not learn or grow into the person you were meant to be. Be patient with yourself and realize that you need time to develop into the great person you were meant to be. Know that you have what it takes and that you can do it!
Have you ever felt like you are going to wrong direction? Maybe you might have felt like your spinning your wheels going nowhere fast. I’m sure you have, as I have. I’m pretty sure everybody has felt this way one time or another.
This is where you stop learning and trying new things. It’s like you are stuck in a rut. You go out to the same restaurant. You drive the same way every time. You do the same thing day in and day out with nothing new coming into your life.
Are you wishing some part of your life would be better or happier? You know that it is possible, because you see others who have it all. They have a nice home, a great paying job, they drive a new BMW and are in a loving relationship.
Think about a tree. You see a big, strong, brown trunk that branches off to many smaller branches that hold its leaves. A tree doesn’t have one leaf on it. There are hundreds. Take it a step further by thinking about prosperity, abundance and there is more than enough. There is an abundance of leaves on the tree. There is an abundance of branches.
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Are you letting your obstacles stop you from living the life we want? Do you even know what your barriers are? Obstacles, blocks, and barriers fall into four categories. There’s Fear, Criticism, Resentment and Guilt. I’ll be explaining each of these, so you will be able to exam your own life to see what is stopping you from the life you desire.
The third one is guilt. People tell us negative things as a way to manipulate us. They lay guilt on us to control us and guilt is the easiest way to manipulate someone. Guilt never solves anything so don’t put guilt on others, just give out good intentions. What we give out is what we get back. Guilt always looks for punishment and punishment creates pain in yourself and others.
and what you do. Appreciate yourself, what you have and have do so far in life.
Lately I had the experience to be in two different situations and listen to how women speak about money. The first situation the woman was a small business owner who incorporated her business. She has had her corporation three years and is still struggling to pay the employees and rent. As she spoke I heard words like, “Why can’t I get ahead?” “I struggle every month just to pay the bill.” “I don’t pay myself, as there is nothing left at the end of the month.” “I keep pulling money out of my savings, just to pay the bills.” Can you relate to any of her statements?
would be a months of expensive in the saving account, to pay off all my credit cards every month and be debt free.”
I chatted with many of the women and started listening to what they were talking about as I did my art project. What I noticed was there’s a group consciousness running through the group. I heard a few times how the government or big corporations were greedy. How the sister did such and such, because she was greedy. Somebody had such and such disease and the hospital was greedy. It was so expensive to have the surgery. Things keep going up. Have you noticed prices, they are skyrocketing.